Story is long. I have been with this girl 4 years living together 2 years. one day she left me out of blue. I didn't go after her but I was looking for an explanation but realized she was so defensive and didn't want to speak and just saying that I have to think about myself sorry. Then a week later she was flirting with a new guy. Ones I realized there is someone else in the picture I cut the all contact and sad her my best wishes. After 6 months she was pregnant from this guy. She is still not married but had a baby recently.on the e-mail she says the same thing and telling me that she was in love with me although she never said "I love you " while we were together. she is still looking our pictures and she is sorry for the way she choice the end. she also says last year she was dreaming about me quite often. Kind of blaming the guy that she rushed all because of him which was stupid she says. wanted to phone me sometime but scared to call me. She also says the reason for break up wasn't him.!
She sent me couple of e-mails and texts like "hope you don t hate me etc. " every 2-3 months after break up. I respond the one of them by saying it is OK and it is not fair to him you writing me and I don't feel comfortable being in contact with you( she was pregnant that time) and ignored the other e-mails
She is still with this guy and states that happy with her decision at the moment.
To be honest I am OK with it now and not holding grudge but don't want to involve with her after this stage. It was very difficult that time to ditched away like this after 4 years without an explanation or warning.I didn't have a opportunity to say something to her that time.Although I tried but she shut me down really strictly so I walked away.
I was her first boyfriend by the way. She always said she hates the fact that I had girlfriend before her.
Have you been in a similar situation what are your thoughts it seems it is still affecting me in same way. How to deal with this.
sorry for the novel.. Just needed to take out..
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Yes, mine not as bad but I was dumped out of the blue for no apparent reason he just stopped contacting me didn't even officially break up with me and then 6 weeks later he was with someoneelse who he didn't even meet till after we broke up but then he did the same thing to her.
on the other hand one of my best friends was with this guy for 3 years and he was her first everything and she always hated that he'd slept with 2 other girls and so the way she talked about him it was like yeah I know you love him but she wanted more experience, its weird I know but this was in her head that she couldn't have it like that, he also said that after she slept with someone else he couldn't take her back, but she's with someone new now - she is happy, however your ex does not seem happy.
From reading your post and the way you handle things you sound like an amazing guy that any girl would be lucky to have so easier said than done but don't waste your time on someone like that, too much pain and drama start fresh! (espesially when a child is involved)0