I acted needy with the man I love and it made him back up. Now I don't know if there's any chance I can get him back or if its too late.
What do you think ?
Details if you care to read lol :
We've been seeing each other for some months getting closer and closer every time with insane chemistry. I always protected my heart with him because I know he's a busy man and wasn't sure if he wanted something serious. In the period we were seeing each other he once had to travel out of the country for his work for 2 months and I let him go and kept myself busy and when he came back our relationship was even stronger.
He started telling me more serious stuff, said he missed me so bad, we were then seeing each other all the time everyday and I could tell it was his heart speaking and then we were almost like a couple, he even gave me his house keys, but he warned me he had to leave again for work. At this point I was really letting my feelings show and had some of my stuff in his apartment...I almost lived there, everything went super fast..
Now I think that's the point were he maybe got scared of this going so fast because I was really not the independent girl anymore I was just deeply in love with him and I could not hide it. When he left I could not stop messaging him telling him I missed him etc. I think I could have done it too much because he is not calling me back and not telling me when he comes back and I know he is still around and he gets my messages.
Now I'm scared I ruined it all by being the needy girl and not the busy girl he fell in love with.. I want to know what you guys think it will be when he's back, and if I ruined everything ?
For now I just stopped calling him and try to keep my mind busy...
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Keys are serious business. You don't just give anyone your keys. It sounds like you're a serious girlfriend. He should call you at least every other day. And the relationship is too serious to end with a blow off anyway. At this point he owes you a break up conversation. Of course he might not want to do that over the phone because you have keys to his apartment.
I wouldn't message him anymore. My advice is that you stop calling him, and wait and see if he calls you. If and when he does, don't talk to him for too long; you have lots of exciting things going on in your life and you don't have time to talk to him for hours.
If he doesn't call you within a week, call him. If he doesn't answer, leave a really sweet and laid back message asking his permission to go to his apartment and pick up your stuff. Say that you need something and you'r just going to get the rest while you're over there because it's weird not having access to your things. Be really sweet so that he doesn't think you're pouting or trying to show him that if he doesn't straighten up you'll be gone and he'll be sorry. What you're trying to do is show him that you are willing to take a big step backward.
I don't know where he is, but he's probably really busy, and when he's not working he's probably trying to enjoy himself while he's out of the country. He might not know when he's getting back. And yes you were probably bothering him. No guy likes to be harassed by his girl when he's trying to do other stuff. Girls don't like it either. Just lay off of him and give him space.3