You're too immature to be a good girlfriend. He's too immature to have a girlfriend. If you're having sex with his friend and he's cutting himself then both of you Ned time a part for you to realize what a real relationship means and for him to straighten out his emotions and not be dependent on you.
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My girlfriend cheated on me once. I still loved her and wanted to work it out ni think part of me blamed myself because we were in a rocky time and I may have caused at too. I felt guilty for driving her away and didn't want to ever see that again.
Just like in my scenario, it's good at you were honest right away
You have to understand that it's going to take time for him to move past it. You just have to keep showing him love and not expect anything from him
So not only have you ruined your relationship, but you probably ruined the friendship he had with said person... great job.
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"He was asking ME not to leave HIM" What a p****. He should kicked that valueless ass to the curb. God damn. You'd think he would have a little more respect for himself than that.
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Yeah well he loves me, something maybe you don't understand?
It doesn't matter. You cheated and on with one of his friends no less. He should cut out both of you right away. He has not a shred of respect for himself. He really doesn't.
That has nothing to do with my previous comment. You say he has no self respect, I'm asking could that be related to something, child sexual abuse and domestic abuse?
He hasn't, I've tried to get him to but he just shuts me out about it he hates talking about it, whenever we talk about it even briefly he seems to feel like he's going on about it and that I'll think he's attention seeking.
it sounds like he's depending on you for happiness.I was thinking a rational mind would at least contemplated leaving you over this, rather than begging you to stay.
Wow, the beginning sounded really deep "lost our virginity together" . First consider yourself lucky. That guy is a KEEPER. You cheated on him and he still wans to be with you!?! I guess their is such a thing as second chances huh.
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He's gorgeous I know he's a keeper and are you being sarcastic about the virginity thing? He's never had sex with anyone else I'm not sure if he feels like the fact that I have is a big deal?
Obviously he's not the "love of your life" if this is how you treat him
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He is, you wouldn't know. I was drunk, it was stupid, he's more attractive than his friend anyway. It just hurt me hearing him that upset and not knowing what to do.
Drinking doesn't make you randomly fall on top of someone's naked body, it makes you more open to do things that you were curious to do in the first place.
"He's more attractive than his friend anyway" just works as the icing on the cake to show how childish you are about all of this, you don't love this man and you sure as hell don't deserve him.
You done effed up. Relationship's toast, downhill from here.
People don't accidentally hook up with significant others friends, or place themselves in a situation where at some point you knew it was possible and likely it could happen. I say this not to give you the mommy finger, but rather to point out it's possible you weren't getting everything you wanted in the first place.
Tell your Boyfriend to grow a pair, then do him a favor and break up.
Just look after him and his needs from now on, you had your share.
Time will heal it, have patience and let things be about him and not you from now on.
Cheers
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Do him a favor. Leave him and notify his loved ones that he may hurt himself.
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make sure he doesn't hurt himself, and don't be in a relationship with him, he will never trust you again after that. its best you be friends, but nothing more. its something you both will have to live with.
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You're too immature to be a good girlfriend. He's too immature to have a girlfriend. If you're having sex with his friend and he's cutting himself then both of you Ned time a part for you to realize what a real relationship means and for him to straighten out his emotions and not be dependent on you.
My girlfriend cheated on me once. I still loved her and wanted to work it out ni think part of me blamed myself because we were in a rocky time and I may have caused at too. I felt guilty for driving her away and didn't want to ever see that again.
Just like in my scenario, it's good at you were honest right away
You have to understand that it's going to take time for him to move past it. You just have to keep showing him love and not expect anything from him
One thing you should never do it blame yourself. This is never anyone else's fault but the cheater. Remember that.
So not only have you ruined your relationship, but you probably ruined the friendship he had with said person... great job.
"He was asking ME not to leave HIM" What a p****. He should kicked that valueless ass to the curb. God damn. You'd think he would have a little more respect for himself than that.
Yeah well he loves me, something maybe you don't understand?
It doesn't matter. You cheated and on with one of his friends no less. He should cut out both of you right away. He has not a shred of respect for himself. He really doesn't.
he does sound very codependent.
He has some issues from sh*t that happened to him when he was younger could that be something to do with it?
And not only that, I know you say that you "feel terrible," but you are walking all over him with this and you will do it again. Save your "I won't."
It could be. He has something going on. His parents didn't love him enough? I don't know. He's seeking your approval for whatever reason.
That has nothing to do with my previous comment. You say he has no self respect, I'm asking could that be related to something, child sexual abuse and domestic abuse?
Yeah, I submitted the other comment about the same time you did.
But yeah, it could have something to do with it. Therapy may be in order if he hasn't already done that.
He hasn't, I've tried to get him to but he just shuts me out about it he hates talking about it, whenever we talk about it even briefly he seems to feel like he's going on about it and that I'll think he's attention seeking.
Is he overly concerned with you while not sure how he feels? You probably wouldn't be aware of the latter.
Sorry I don't understand that question?
it sounds like he's depending on you for happiness.I was thinking a rational mind would at least contemplated leaving you over this, rather than begging you to stay.
I'm not sure if he is but he is unstable as it is.
A lot of people don't go to therapy until the way they're coping isn't working anymore. Therapy can be such a taboo.
he really doesn't like the idea of it, he shuts me out straight away.
You're not the one he should be talking to.
I just have to say wow at a couple of girls saying he is a keeper from this. You know what they want to do.
Yeah I don't think I would stay. I've been in love, it's not that. He may not realize his influence with other women.
Wow, the beginning sounded really deep "lost our virginity together" . First consider yourself lucky. That guy is a KEEPER. You cheated on him and he still wans to be with you!?! I guess their is such a thing as second chances huh.
He's gorgeous I know he's a keeper and are you being sarcastic about the virginity thing? He's never had sex with anyone else I'm not sure if he feels like the fact that I have is a big deal?
im rarely sarcastic
You think you're cool clearly.
k watever you say
sorry for downvoting what You said I misread some of your responses down below but when I reread them I see downvoting was inappropriate
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Obviously he's not the "love of your life" if this is how you treat him
He is, you wouldn't know. I was drunk, it was stupid, he's more attractive than his friend anyway. It just hurt me hearing him that upset and not knowing what to do.
Lol if you felt hurt then imagine what he was feeling.
Honestly question asker, you're full of it.
Drinking doesn't make you randomly fall on top of someone's naked body, it makes you more open to do things that you were curious to do in the first place.
"He's more attractive than his friend anyway" just works as the icing on the cake to show how childish you are about all of this, you don't love this man and you sure as hell don't deserve him.
This is your answer, QA - stop bullsh*tting us, actions speak louder than words.
You done effed up. Relationship's toast, downhill from here.
People don't accidentally hook up with significant others friends, or place themselves in a situation where at some point you knew it was possible and likely it could happen. I say this not to give you the mommy finger, but rather to point out it's possible you weren't getting everything you wanted in the first place.
Tell your Boyfriend to grow a pair, then do him a favor and break up.
what happened? did you two end up working it out and staying together?
not a small mistake...being regretful won't help...just forget it and move on and don't break trust of some other boy who may come in your life
I hate girls who cheat on their boyfriends. You're a whore
Just look after him and his needs from now on, you had your share.
Time will heal it, have patience and let things be about him and not you from now on.
Cheers
Do him a favor. Leave him and notify his loved ones that he may hurt himself.
make sure he doesn't hurt himself, and don't be in a relationship with him, he will never trust you again after that. its best you be friends, but nothing more. its something you both will have to live with.
shoot yourself