About a month ago my friend was sad because she said her boyfriend was abusive (verbally, he would pick fights and call her names) and mean and she wanted to break up with him, but she had nowhere to go. I told her she could move in with me and my parents so she could break up with him and stay away from him. Originally she was going to move in like 2 weeks or so ago but ended up staying until the end of this month and is now moving in; however, she is staying with her bf.
I felt annoyed that she wasn't breaking up with him, and I didn't understand why because I should be happy that she thinks things might work, but then I realized that the whole purpose of why I offered my home to her isn't happening. I'm irritated because I feel like she's basically trying to free-load off me, she isn't going to break up with her boyfriend she just needed a place to stay since it was getting too expensive for her and her boyfriend to live together. She has said down the road her and her boyfriend might move back in together.
I'm going to talk to my parents about it, and they'll probably put a month or 2 restriction on her staying her, originally we hadn't talked about a deadline. Am I over-reacting to this? In my mind I feel justified, but since her and I all have mutual friends, I don't feel like I can talk to anyone else right now.
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You're probably just too frustrated. You want to see her do better and even tried doing her a tremendous favor by letting her move in, but she refuses to do better for herself.
If I were you, I'd tell her this: If you don't break up with him, then there's no point in you staying here with me. Maybe she doesn't understand how her actions are effecting you. You should tell her face-to-face.
Don't worry about mutual friends, if they're friends that are worth having, they'll mind their own business, or at least agree with you, because you are right.0