- Stay and work it out
- Move on
Most Helpful Girl
I believe you should give up in a relationship when neither can satisfy each others' needs and is not making an effort to compensate. There is not only the lack of ability to satisfy each others' needs, but there is a lack of understanding and tolerance. There is a problem in the effectiveness of your communication as neither is willing to give up or be willing to do something for the other.
If you are able to solve these problems, then you should stay in this relationship. If both of you are not able to solve the problems in your relationship, then it is bound to deteriorate.
If you have hopes in fixing this relationship there are certain things you can do.
Tell her, I really love you and I wish we can work out our differences so we can both be satisfied in our relationship. I'd like us to do an exercise so we can both increase our understanding of each other. (Let's ask each other these questions)
Please tell me what is it that would make you happy in our relationship?
What can I do to make you happier?
Is there something that you want?
Is there something I do wrong that makes you angry? Please tell me so I can improve and make you feel better.
(whenever there is a subject you'd like to discuss like sex, bring it up the table in a less invasive manner) Example: sex, I really enjoy making love to you because I feel a connection when we are together, do you enjoy it as well? (if she says no) Why don't you enjoy it? Is there something wrong that I am doing? What can I do to make it better? (In every problem, try to understand her point of view and a consensus in which both can agree upon)
If regardless of all the efforts you put on to fix this relationship and it doesn't work, maybe it is time to let it go...0