Today I was arguing with my ex, and he still condemns me for my past. In the past, before being with him, I was with a mutual friend and had some other casual flings, but none involved sex, I was a virgin.
Our relationship breakdown started because he asked me about my past, he was livid that I hadn't told him about the mutual friend beforehand, he said he couldn't trust me and that I was a slut. I cut the friendship with the other guy, but that wasn't enough. He kept calling me a slut.
Years have passed since, and he still thinks I should've disclosed my past before we started dating, because, in his words "I would've realized what a slut you were and wouldn't have dated you in the first place".
He didn't disclose his past, so there's a huge double standard there. But he says "it's different" because he had a girlfriend, so it was something serious, and all the other girls he was with, he knew well and they weren't so casual as my flings. He was not a virgin though.
Now I'm scared that all guys will be like this. Do they all expect a sexual history report in the beginning of a relationship? Do they all judge a woman a slut just because of such a thing, while expecting their past to be accepted? Are there guys who don't care?
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I am. The mutual friend thing is a no go. The reason being is that for one, that friend was with your girlfriend (no one wants that) and two, whatever happened between them can happen again.
Now, you say you were a virgin and nothing happened, so what do you mean "casual flings" because if you were say giving that guy oral, that's still sex (just something that girls that want to keep the title of "virgin" do) and it's still something no one wants a friend to have done with your girlfriend.
Anyway, yeah, I care. I don't want a promiscuous girl. I don't want one that has had sex (any form) with random guys. That's not to say I require a virgin. If she had sex within relationships, that's fine, but even then, it still can't be a lot and it can't be from a serial monogamist. There's really no difference between then and a slutty chick when it boils down to it.0
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