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I have to disagree. I don't think it was silly to end it. Whether she lives right next door or several hours away doesn't matter. Whether she wants him back or doesn't want him back doesn't matter either. What does matter is that he has feelings for her, and those feelings didn't fade once he met you, unlike your feelings for your ex. I have been in situations where I was hung up on ex-boyfriends, and whenever a guy I really wanted to be with turned up in my life, I lost all interest in my ex.
However, your ex-boyfriend insists on still keeping in touch with her (which I, by the way, find pretty disrespectful, considering he still harbours feelings for her). This shows me that he is not willing to let go. It would be one thing if he was confused but tried his very best to give you and your relationship a chance. But that is not the case. 1. He still wants to talk to her and 2. He did not fight for you.
Maybe he will realize that he wants to be with you, but maybe he won't. Do you really want to be that woman on the backburner? I suggest that you move on. Remember how your ex stopped mattering when you met this guy? Eventually you will met a guy and this guy won't matter anymore. But if you tie yourself down and wait for someone who's obsessed with his ex to come around, then you might miss out on that guy.