I had a G.R.E.A.T relationship with a guy last summer. But once the summer came to an end we had a bit of a fight about how much time we spend with each other and I broke up with him :p..I realized soon after it was a big mistake and I tried to talk to him about it but the break up was very abrupt so he was extremely upset about it.
We hadn't talked for 6 months and he ended up spilling to my friend that he misses me a lot and said he wished we never broke up.
We started talking via text again yesterday and we both seemed excited to be speaking again, but we keep calling each other "dude, bro, homie and man"...I can't tell if he wants to get back together SOON or just be friends?...
Its bothering me because I remember he thought I friend-zoned him last summer and it took him a LONG time to realize that he could have asked me out but he was confused about MY feelings.
Should I ask him straight up what he wants from this? or is that too much pressure on the guy? :/
I just really want to know soon !;/
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Communication is important. In the first case, that fight could have been avoided. Relationships are supposed to be about giving and taking. If he feels that you aren't spending enough time with him, or if you feel that he isn't spending enough time with you, then you both need to calmly talk to each other and accommodate to try to come up with a plan.
Remember, communication is important. In the second case, he thought that you friend-zoned him, when in fact he could have asked you out. He didn't know what your feelings were, and you took that as a sign that he didn't care anymore. That is why communication is important. Neither of you can expect the other person to be able to read his/your mind. When in doubt, ask. This means that if you aren't sure about something, you ask him, and if he isn't sure about something, he asks you. Often, you might be thinking that he is thinking one thing, when in fact he is thinking about something else and didn't talk to you because he didn't know what you were thinking. He probably wants to get together with you again.
Does this make sense?
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