I need some perspective ... Help
What Guys Said 1
have dinner, and put your cards on the table. tell him that your feelings have changed.
What Girls Said 1
You should probably have a real conversation with him about your feelings and how they have evolved since the split. Be honest with him. Tell him the time away has allowed you to gain a new perspective on life and what you want out of it. Tell him what you said on here, that your desires for life have evolved and you have the same goal he does.
My guess would be that he is stand off-ish because he's worried about being hurt again. The male Ego can be a very fragile thing.
It's a solid indication that he's still fond of you that you guys are in such close contact.
If the conversation does not end how you are hoping, then it would be time to move on and cut off communication to allow wounds to heal.
My guess is that things will go the way you are wanting them to go, but it might be a slow process at first.
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