Me and my ex were together for about 5 years, off and on. We have had our problems, mostly due to our home lives getting in the way, normally my life!
Anyway. We broke up for 7 months (our longest break up), had no contact what so ever and then we were back together for a year, happier than ever. We went on holiday, we were planning to move out, everything.
Anyway. A week ago last Monday he told me he loved me, that he saw a flat he liked and wanted to move in somewhere similar with me. We made love. Everything was normal.
The next night he started ignoring me.
He didn't speak to me until Monday 11th and he texted me to say he had feelings for someone else. He was in a relationship the early hours of Tuesday, the next day, after taking her on a date Monday morning. She's 16, he's 21. She is also the little sister of the bassist of his band. And they have a manager and are planning all sorts of amazing stardom in the next year - he's even taking a gap year between college and work to focus on the band.
At the moment, I don't want to see him, I don't want him back. However, I really did love him, we were two peas in a pod.
What I'm really scared of is (all my friends are saying when, I'm saying if) is he will come back. That one day he will knock on my door, or wait outside my work, or message me, or 'bump' into me at the pub. And I don't know what I will do. Of course I won't take him back, it's more what will I say. Has anyone had an ex come back from cheating?
In the past week he has been down the road from me twice, and he is planning to be again next week at least once. I passed him driving when I was coming home from work. I feel he is always around the corner from me. Also, I have had this in the past, but every time he feels an extreme emotion, joy or sadness, my belly flips and I feel it too. I had a horrible vivd daydream at work that I spent a day with them, and when I got home, I discovered that my daydream was perfectly true. And my belly was flipping then. It flipped the night he ignored me, again in the week and again the Monday. It's like I'm connected to him. (I don't normally believe in that kinda stuff)
So yes, I wanted to give some background. Do you think he will come back at some point?
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I bet he will come back after he tires of the flavor of the month. BUT don't do it! He has a wandering eye. If he can just walk away for some new little tart he's just a d-bag.
He will try to come back and he probably believes you'll be waiting for him.
I know the pain of this, and of letting go. But you will find an equally deep connection with another guy once you fully let him go.
When he does try to contact you again, avoid him and ignore him at all costs. He doesn't deserve you or your love and attention.0