My name is Caleb, I'm Australian and I'm 25. It feels really good to write and get this all out there but I traveled to Canada for a holiday last year to see family from my dad's side and to meet new people and have a bit of fun, I ended up meeting the girl of my dreams and for the entire trip I ended up spending time and getting to know this girl.
It truly felt like nothing more then a dream and anything I have ever felt in my life before, everything I could have ever wanted or asked for in a girlfriend. We had the most amazing time while I was there, only to leave and ask her to come with me back to Aus! She ended up packing her things, quiting her job and coming to me a month later, I paid for all the airfares and took care of everything, I was still living with my parents and family at the time but never the less my family was nothing but supportive and accepted her extremely quickly as one of there own.
Everything happened so fast, we were living together and she got a full time job within the first month she was here, I was nothing but happy as we talk a lot about being together and sharing a future, shortly three months later we were looking to move out together in our own place, which easy enough we did. We fought about stupid little things sometimes like any other normal couple would, it begun to get worse as she told me she was starting to miss her friends and family and her life back home, I tried to be supportive as much as I could and told her that it was completely understandable considering she had grown up 24 years in another country with everything she knows and feels comfortable with, it was starting to get even worse day by day as she was struggling to meet new people and find her own girlfriends that she could do things with.
Another part that probably didn't help was she was in her last year of university with only two credits left to go to graduate with a degree, she put that on hold for a year to come and be with me which I never asked her too, but with this going on she couldn't re-register for school for another that she came to me.
Coming close to Christmas I suggested that I get her a ticket back home so she could be with her friends and family, she started tearing up in nothing but happiness about the idea...mid December she left, we kept the long distance thing going for three months after that, but she was suppose to come back at the end of January but didn't as she said that she just couldn't leave yet, she has loose ends to tie off and she needed more time, she kept complaining about not finishing school and then ask for another three months, I'll admit that long distance is hard but talking for three months, I did say some things that might of pushed her away but we ended up breaking up.
We went a whole month not talking, I did the whole no contact rule but then I got a random email from her telling me she misses me, which I did not respond to then I started getting texts from her again...
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You can't take her back until she gets her degree. You tell her that you want to see her succeed and you two can't be together until she finishes.
On another topic, seems to me (as a dramatic writer's point of view) that the first time she left, around Christmas, she ran into an ex-boyfriend or something like that and that's the loose end she had to close. That's why she kept insisting she hadn't been with anyone, because even though he saw him or talked to him, she did nothing with him. But of course, this is just a plot I figured from what you wrote so I could be wrong.
So, conclusion. I don't think she's doing anything to you. Not intentionally. She is a lost, confused little soul. She wants to be with you but at the same time doesn't want to lose her entire life. I guess her perfect solution would be that you moved over there but seeing that that may not happen she is just hesitant to leave her world behind. So you can tell her that when she finishes her degree she can think about what she wants to do, but ask her to make up her mind once and for all.0