Most Helpful Girl
I would just be alert and keep your wits about you. Maybe backing up a bit would be OK, just keep your guard up (around your heart), you know? Keep some distance. He won't get over her faster just because you're in his space. He really needs time alone to do that, but it's been a year and half so really, he should almost be there. My guy was not really over his ex when we met. He talked a lot about her right away, and I could tell he was still hurt and looked a little wistful when speaking of her, like he still missed her. To be honest, he probably would have continued to chase her if we hadn't met, but, we did. :) Knowing how he felt about her, didn't bother me right away. It only bothered me once I was in love with him, and she tried to contact him 8 months into our relationship. I became incredibly insecure about her, because I knew how important she had been to him. He completely ignored her though, a week later we were engaged and he just told me yesterday that I am the love of his life :-) If I'd not dated him because I thought he wasn't over the ex, we wouldn't be where we are today.