I [26/m] dated a girl [25/F] for a few months and we share great experience--when we first started dating she was in a bad place and had a lot of hatred for her on/off again ex. She and I dated and through oru relationship she became happy and in a better place--unfortunately she wants/is planning to go back to her ex to try one more time (he isn't a bad guy but there are just on/off).
I'll be blunt--I would like her back but I know I need to respect her decision. The problem is she is still lingering in my life and wants to come to a big race (half marathon) this weekend--I know I don't want to be friends/contact with her while she's working things out with her ex for the fifth time and to be honest I want to give things time to see if one day we can rekindle things.
How should I go about talking to her to say good bye amicable but leave the door open for the future--I want her to be happy no matter what. I was either thinking to let her come to my half and treat her normally/non-chalant and then telling her I plan on getting out of her life for now (I definitely don't want to be afriend when shes' taken) or just saying the same thing and that I'd like to do my race solo (without her support).
Ultimately--I want to gracefully say good bye and maintain my respect but let her know I care for her and maybe leave teh door open down the line...