A man that's been cheated on. Is it more or less likely to cheat in his next relationship?

A man that has been cheated on by his girlfriend in a previous relationship, is he more or less likely to cheat on future girlfriends?

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  • First of all cheating is a character flaw and not all men who were cheated on will resort to cheating in their next relationship. Of the small percentage that do, probably most likely are either immature, or had it in their mind to cheat all the long, or even may have cheated and gotten away with it.

    Generally, a man with good moral character (and a bad decision in a mate) will most likely carry his moral character into his next relationship. Unfortunately he may also carry some emotional scarring with him meaning he is less likely to openly trust his next mate as easily. She will most likely be put through additional challenges that the previous girlfriend most likely didn't have to go through. However, it will be her actions that will affect the next relationship.

    Because of the trust issues, he will definitely have a wall up, as well as heightened senses and be more questionable of her activity when he isn't around her, even if she hasn't given him a reason to. She can thank the girlfriend who cheated for that.

    He may also create obstacles to "test" her desire to be with him by making himself difficult at times or even making her go through a lot to reach him. Everything she does will be put under a microscope and even if she isn't intentionally sending signals of doubt, he may find reason in her actions. Either way, expect some commitment issues because of this.

    He may even question the behavior of her closest friend(s) being that he may feel they may play a part in setting up opportunities to cheat or creating an alibi so she can cheat. Needless to say, she will have a much more difficult time reaching him and getting him to put his guard down.

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    • Well said I agree in most cases and I've been cheated on,used,back stabbed and betrayed all because of my kindness one of my options I do have just to give up don't worry I do have other options besides just give up. And yes I'm still a virgin I'm saving my virginity till marriage and I expect her to do the same.

      i haven't decided to hire escorts,prostitutes/hookers etc. yet these are just 2 of my options I do have like I said don't worry I do have other options besides the 2 I listed :).

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  • Well, you're in luck. I'm a guy who was cheated on in my last relationship.

    My girlfriend of 5 years (fiancé for the last 2) cheated on me twice. The first time I forgave her and took her back and the second time I refused to take her back. Both of those instances were incredibly painful and taking her back the first time was one of the biggest mistakes I've ever made.

    That happened 2 years ago. Now, for the first time, I am seeing a new girl and am on the verge of a new relationship, and I can assure you that I would NEVER cheat on her or any woman for that matter, first because its wrong, and second because I know what it feels like.

    Now, before I was ever cheated on I would've never cheated to begin with, but I can't think of why and guy who was cheated on would be more likely to cheat. If anything, it doesn't affect the chances or lowers them, but when pondering questions like this its important to remember that everybody is different.

    I would say the biggest thing that being cheated on would affect is his willingness to trust you. Now that I am taking a dive into a relationship, that is the number one thing I am keeping myself in check for. I definitely know that I could be controlling because of my past experience, but I refuse to be. Only thing I can say is good luck! lol

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  • Could go either way. I've been cheated on and I would never want another person to feel like I did when it happened.

    However, some people can react differently. While not logical, a guy could end up judging "all girls" that way and wreck his next relationship with a girl who is the exact opposite of his ex.

    It depends on how they take the cheating. Judging "all girls" and "all guys" is the big flaw a lot of people have.

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  • I've been cheated on. It won't incline me to cheat on my future GF's but I'll be more suspicious of certain situations, and if a girl ever tells me she's cheated on a past Boyfriend no matter how much of a d*** he was I'll show her to the door.

    They're called red flags for a reason, don't ignore them.

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  • He'll probably be a bit more picky as to who he calls his girlfriend. And he will probably have a lot of issues with the simple trust of the girl. Will he cheat himself? Probably not, for the simple reason that being cheated on crushes your heart so unless he's the vengeful person, he would try not to have his heart broken again in the next relationship.

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  • I can only speak for myself, but after being cheated on I went through a nasty Man-Whore phase. I fully regret doing it. I was ripped up emotionally and I didn't think very much of myself or of women. But that's no valid excuse for the behavior. I advise guys to check their feelings and not date for 6 months. Now I'm virtually cheat-proof because I more fully understand myself and I'm aware of the devastation that can be caused by a douche bag such as I once was.

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  • I'd guess he'd be more distant and less willing to commit to any woman. It would probably take a lot of work to get him to really open up and trust again. That said he's going either of 2 directions from a relationship like that. 1) He no longer really trusts women, and will just fool around with tons of girl and never let them get close to him, or 2) Shutting down and being very cautious on whom he lets get close to him and making them work unreasonably hard to get anywhere.

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  • Hard to say,but you might have to do a little more for him to trust you. If he's bitter and mad at women then he might cheat. Or if he realizes it hurts then he knows the pain and won't let you suffer like he did.

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  • Could go either way.

    But he's likely to be less trusting, and he's likely to find a healthy sex drive scary and be overly pleased, initially, with low drive partners.

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  • I'd rather think that he would have trust issues if he goes into another relationship. Then to get thoughts of cheating on his new girlfriend.

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  • Listen sweety,

    People only cheat in a relationship because, A) they are selfish and don't care about their partners needs and wants and only care about theirs, and getting their rocks off. Or B) they are not satisfied in the relationship aka communication, to money, to being far to your patner, and the list goes on. So they go searching for it somewhere else. That's it.

    So if your meeting all these needs you boyfriend should be satisfied. if you arent, which I'm pretty sure you are, but who knows cause I don't know you. Then you might have someting to worry about.

    Just because I've been cheated on doesn't mean I'm gonna go cheat on my new girlfriend. I'm to old to play the high school cheating game.

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  • "once a chat always a cheat" old cliche but I guess its true, I'd say more likely to cheat again because he knows he is capable of it again

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  • If it's 1-2 times he want to improve next relationships...but if it's constant 6-7 times then he may accept that's how life is and may cheat.

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  • He's more likely to be a wreck and quite mistrusting

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  • If I got cheated on in 3-4 consecutive relationships definitely.

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  • Less likely.

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  • Less likely to cheat because he knows what it's like to get hurt

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  • No cuz he's the passive one

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  • I've been cheated on and I'll never cheat. I'll just never date another slut again. :)

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  • It really depends on the individual and how he takes the situation. Statistics means hardly anything at all when it comes to gauging people's reactions, as there is no mean or average.

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What Girls Said 4

  • i fail to see a link between a man getting cheated on and probability of HIM cheating? Wouldn't you wanna ask what's the chances of a man cheating again, if he's cheated in his past relationships?

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  • This has to be noted in my notebook! Good question there, Hun!

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  • I don't think it works that way.

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  • Definitely yes. if cheating is in his genes, he's gonna cheat again & again. Without a doubt!

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