I seriously think I'm dating your ex. What are the chances?
@Cherimags i think im dating him too. Jeeze
I think I married him..😢😅😭🤣
I feel the same way. Interaction is def possible with web cam, so it is the same as sexting. Just because it is an unknown person doesn't mean it's any better than a friend or co-worker.
It's not exactly the same as setting - it's better (for me - I like to treat myself with one of those lovely girls about once every 4 months)/worse (for the girl whose guy is cheating on her with cam girls, because it is cheating).But yeah just making a point that it is even more cheating than setting, until the sexters make contact with each other of course. It is not trivial.
No its the same as watching a vid. Most viewers just watch. They don't chat or share cams. Sounds like someone is a little bit in secure. Want a hug?
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some of the girls answering are going to have a hard time when they start living in the real world...or theyre going to be doing some messed up stuff with their boyfriend to keep him interested
This is the real world. You can't say that you live in the real world and everyone else isn't. That's like allowing slavery and saying "Hey, welcome to the real world." People have different standards, and if that is what works for you, then that's what works for you. But that does not mean the rest of us think this is okay.
LOL not everyone thinks like you, buddy. And Confucius is right. Here is an example of poly people pressuring mono people to go their way, claiming they live in a fantasy world if, gasp, we don't want to be with anyone but our partner. If that works for you and your girlfriend, fine, but judging mono people harshly for a legitimate lifestyle that both women and men enjoy makes you seem insecure.
cheating is doing something with another person. watching a screen of somebody doing things is not doing anything with that person. nice job on trying to say something as stupid as comparing webcams to slavery.as for me being something you call a 'poly person' that's not even close. I have no desire to be with another person when I have a gf... your jumping to say that I'm insecure is laughable. what is silly is that you think watching a screen is cheating.
It's still interaction. Why do people form close bonds over the Internet? It's not in-person, but it's still interaction. If a girl came over in person and you watched her, it's pretty much the same thing. Again, my issue here is that you're saying that every guy thinks like you. They don't.
Slavery was an analogy. If you don't like, it does not mean that the message is wrong. This is the real world, and there are people like you, and there are people like us. Yours is not the only standard.Cheating is anything that brings up desire to do something outside of the relationship. Watching someone on camera can even make you start to desire them. This doesn't always happen, but it is like you're engaging in fantasy with someone who isn't your girlfriend.
lol the ad hominem stuff here is great"but it is like you're engaging in fantasy with someone who isn't your girlfriend." which is why it is fantasy & not real, making it not real
Yes, this is good.
I think it's terrible how many guys answering this really don't consider things like this. p*rn, and strip clubs cheating. You made a commitment to a girl that you only had eyes for her, so why are other girls getting your attention and turning you on? That's unfair and completely disrespectful. If I found out my SO was doing something to this affect, I would be heart broken. I'd probably dump him, too, because he obviously doesn't respect commitment.
I agree, it makes me feel injustice when he's the only guy I see and I have to compete with other girls.
Also, I do consider strip clubs to be cheating, so...
I agree. Actually, strip clubs is just really wrong, in my opinion. People that go there need a better life, and those performers aren't really respecting their bodies either.
It seems some people are downvoting us, who disagree with us.
Yeah, it's really sad. I hear the "dancers" donxmt even really enjoy what they're doing. It also treats women like commodities-- like a woman has to be flirty or aroused by any guy she meets, God forbid she has preferences or is grossed out by some guys. Ugh.
I hope that people can learn to be more modest about themselves.
Sadly, modesty does not keep the old men from hitting on me at work -_- LOL.
WHAT! OLD MEN! You really mean old men, right?That's so wrong. Where I come from, nobody hits on anybody. I know it happens out there, but I guess that is something I'm not used to seeing. I would respect other people's privacy and I hope that by being modest myself, I can influence both other men and other women to become modest. I'm going to make people become better people through the power of (my) action.
lols you guys are quite the pair. judging people for what they do and trying to change them to fit your ideals.have either of you actually been to a strip club?...already know the answer.strippers are at a job. if they truly disliked it they would quit. also they don't have to do private/lap dances for anybody. 'right or wrong' god forbid a girl be able to do what she wants with her body and do something that has existed since the beginning of time.
Confucius, I have had 70-something guys make sexual comments to me at work. It's disturbing. One example being "I like that red hair; you don't know what that does for me" and 50-somethings and up saying gross things. Some will say things that say I'm pretty, but in a non-sexual way, which I appreciate and tell them "thank you."
Dude, Uncle Kracker, we are preaching tolerance but we don't want people to do things they deep down don't want to do (societal pressure) or get their rights violated. Sure, some strippers may love their jobs, but many likely do it because a crappy waitressing job won't pay enough to support their kids or pay off college loans. It's dehumanizing to pretend you're attracted to someone you're not, and give "favors" in the private rooms.
Yes, we believe in not judging people, but that does not mean that we can't disagree or debate about a topic. No, I will not go to a strip club, because I'm religious and traditional."If they truly disliked it they would quit" is not exactly true. Did you know, 70& of employees hate their jobs? link I know this is unrelated to strip clubs, but you get the point.People have to do jobs to get a living.
People often do jobs that they don't like, because there is no other choice. They need money.For strippers, it has nothing to do with them doing what they want with their bodies. Yeah, they can do what they want, but it is dehumanizing. They aren't respecting their bodies. But still, some of them have no choice. So I feel sorry for them.
so if a guy looks at another girl and that makes his girlfriend have doubts about herself, then he is cheating?
If a guy looks at another girl, it isn't cheating. But the guy should not be looking at other girls as much as he wants to or whenever he sees someone he likes, if he is already in a relationship. That is commitment.What I said above, I said it is cheating, just to a lesser extent.Whether or not the girl has doubts is not the key here. It is whether or not anyone cheats. It seems we disagree on the definition of cheating.
My mind only fantasizes/wonders about dating other people instead if I'm unhappy or feeling neglected. Sometimes it's reparable, but it's usually not. That's why if I had a boyfriend who insisted on webcam girls, strip clubs, etc. I would know he either wasn't into me or was non-monogamous and thus not a good match for me.
@uncleruckus: Any girl that suggested webcams, etc. would make me think "why lust after others when you're already in a relationship?" or something. I'm sure that some normal committed people fantasize once in a while, even in healthy relationships, but it is one thing to think those thoughts and another to actually want to act them out. But if that works for you, then I'm not going to try to change the way you are or anything.
Right, it's just a matter of lifestyle choices IMO.
there are no lesser/greater extents of cheating it is black & white.it isn't lust after another person when a guy just wants to see something different that his girlfriend will not do. how many girls do you know that will slam a foot long dildo up her ass? same reason guys watch other forms of p*rn...it is to see something that they won't see in their normal relationship
LOL I'm not even going to comment. Rofl!
Gosh. Butts are nasty. If one person can't satisfy another person's needs, it does not mean everybody needs to go out seeking something they can't get.
Mhm. Or, maybe if the person can't satisfy those needs in bed, they're with the wrong person.
Clearly the bewst answer, right?
Insecure. Grow a pair.