Is it shallow to dump a girl because she refused to swallow?

Question

I really like it when a girl swallows my cum, and if she doesn't like it or won't do it, its a complete turn off for me, and so its important that a girl is into that for me. is that shallow?

menotyou1 · Accepted Answer

NO it is not shallow, and it is critical to determine this stuff before intimacies start. It is my body and I know what will make me happy in the bedroom. I have the final word as who gets access to my body and who does not. No reason to be nasty , just a calm statement of hey I'm not the man for you. There are other men who would be happy if you spit but that is not me, sorry I'm not interested. I recently rejected a woman precisely for this. I bought her dinner, we went to her place and she said she wanted to blow me. I said I love it when a woman swallows she said she did not do that. I pulled back and said we cannot be intimate you need someone different than me for intimacies. I said we can be friends and we can talk about whatever you like but we should remain platonic. She got upset but hey not my problem, people get rejected all the time for what ever reason, too fat , too skinny, too black , too white, not enough money. I'm so happy I rejected that woman for next week I met another woman, who made it clear she had no problem swallowing at all as long as I'd go down. I said I love to go down, she said come over. It was an amazing beautiful experience I would not have had if I sold myself short. It was also special since I had not had an orgasm in 40 days, and there was no need for towel or Kleenex. Absolutley amazing beautiful woman, Im grateful to have met. Of course you can settle and deny what makes you happy and as time goes by you will invariably run into women who don't mind swallowing at all and you will resent the spitter you are with. but you will have no one to blame but yourself for not being honest and courageous enough to express in polite terms what makes you happy and sticking to it. I've experienced both the spitter and swallower, and I've swallowed my own stuff. No don't settle, good things come to those who wait. this is America if someone else wants a spitter he can have her. I will never date a spitter again, too many great women like it.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

'Shallow' is just a point of view.

Everyone is entitled to his or her opinions (though no one is entitled to a relationship). It's better than lying about it. And, if you think about it, 'settling' is actually really unfair to both yourself and your partner.

I've never dated a girl who didn't like swallowing. So, I'm not 100% sure what I'd do. Since I enjoy giving oral sex (and eating out a girl almost inevitably involves swallowing her juices), I wouldn't like it if she didn't reciprocate. But, at the same time, I'd appreciate her honesty.

I'm not sure what I'd dislike more, the fact that she didn't swallow or the fact that she didn't WANT to swallow.

XRabbitHeartX · Accepted Answer

I do think that's a bit of a pathetic reason to dump a girl. It's really such a minor issue in comparison to bigger issues. But I think if you are willing to do this, then the girl is not meant for you. I'm almost 99% positive that if you met a wonderful girl that you really, really liked or love you wouldn't even consider dumping her over such a small thing. I wouldn't however call this "shallow". There's something wrong about that word in this context, I just think it's more immature than anything else.

Arwens-Fire · Accepted Answer

Yes its shallow and immature,and honestly a little stupid.Clearly you don't care for how SHE feels.The day YOU want to swallow cum,THEN we actually have something to talk about.-_-

Heat50 · Accepted Answer

Sexual compatibility is important in a relationship.  If you aren't satisfied then I don't think it's shallow.

udolipixie · Answer

Is it shallow to dump a girl because she refused to swallow? Not in my opinion as I find sexual satisfaction to be important since I'd dump a guy if I didn't orgasm during sex with him.

kheserthorpe · Answer

If its important to you, its important to you.

Anyone saying its so unimportant, if its that unimportant she'd just f***ing swallow. Its a two way street - not only were you willing to break up over it, she was too.

Find someone compatible.

Sekrett · Answer

Nope, I don't think so. I've done it myself. Sexual compatibility is very important to me. So if we're not sexually compatible better we just move on.

KJT6989 · Answer

No I don't think it is! I would dump a guy if he couldn't eat p****!

TheBiggestDreamer · Answer

It's not that it's shallow it's just rude, ridiculous, cruel, insensitive, not to mention it's taking advantage of people and how they feel

Elliegirl · Answer

That’s so shallow and selfish. Maybe you should consider how she feels about it. Do you really care more about her swallowing cum than you care about her and her feelings?

yaddayaddayadda02 · Answer

Yes, but when you're dating, you're entitled to like what you like.

cavmanier · Answer

Shallow would normally be used to describe liking someone not based on deepness, especially of character: dating someone because of their hair color, their butt or you could say because they swallow cum.

I think your allowed to have your priorities. I wonder if you would really dump her or if you are trying to coerce her into getting your way.

TweetiByrd · Answer

Very shallow and self centered. As was mentioned by one of the girls below, you want an object, not a person. Buy a blow up doll to get off with.

suckmytitties · Answer

Yes, people have their limits respect that.

hannibal214 · Answer

if your needs aren't being met, then you are free to dump her.  personally, as long as I come in her mouth, I don't get all hung up on spit vs swallow (although I do think swallowing is hot), but it's your life.

mballer · Answer

never

DjKrzywick · Answer

No, your happiness is just as important as her health! It is very healthy with vitamins, nutrients and antidepressants for her to swallow semen! Man semen has everything a woman is missing, therefore she should because if it can create a cute baby inside of her then it must be life changing to swallow it. I am much happier now that I left my ex and have a new girlfriend that shows me she swallows and not just in the beginning of the relationship!

Anonymous · Answer

Absolutely not. It's not like we don't swallow their juices while licking them. I work in the med field so if a woman wants to act like a princess I can easily tell her that vaginal fluid is way filthier than semen. Semen is actually clean as it comes from inside the body. Guys dont get penile infections from it. Women on the other hand get vaginosis, yeast, and many other infections because vaginal fluid is contaminated with them. So it's fair to say if we swallow their fluid they should swallow ours too. if she really cares for you she should do it anyways. Do you really think she is into you if she declines that? You have every right to choose someone compatible for you. Also look at it this way men have to lick and swallow their fluid the whole time while they only have to swallow us in the end. So if she isn't willing clearly she is the selfish one not you. Don't let other people brainwash you into thinking otherwise.

Anonymous · Answer

Wow, If u leave her just because she don't swallow, that's really rude!! That can't be the only reason..?

Anonymous · Answer

I think that is a pretty pathetic reason to leave her. Is it REALLY that important to you that she swallow? Are you seariously willing to give up your love for her just because of that one small reason? You were probably never in love if your answer to that is "Yes".

Anonymous · Answer

It's not shallow. It's your happiness after all.

Anonymous · Answer

If you want a girl to swallow, she should be able to swallow. It's not shallow to dump someone over sexual fantasies. She has to be able to satisfy you, just like you should be able to satisfy her.