I broke up with my ex a while ago on good terms. We only dated for 3 months, but we didn't have time to commit to a relationships, so I initiated a break up, and he agreed.
A few months after our break up he expressed interest in getting back together, I told him I'd be up for it, if he had more time to devote to me, but he didn't so we decided to stay friends. I suggested we could have a friends with benefits if he made the time. He was ecstatic about the idea, but never made the time for that either.
Recently he starts talking to me again and flirting with me talking about how he "wished" things could have been different between us. I told him once again If he wanted to get back together, he'd have to devote more time to our relationship. He then tells me he has a girlfriend, but continues to flirt with me.
Now, I'm over him, and I have been since the breakup. But I don't understand why he keeps talking about getting back together? I never thought he was that interested in having a relationship with me because he never made the time to be with me. We only saw each other 3 maybe 4 times a month while we were dating because of his schedule. And we rarely talked after the break up. I honestly forget about him until he texts me about missing me.
I don't understand why he's over romanticizing our relationship or why he says he misses me so much. Its not as if we actually got to know each other or build anything significant.
Should I cease contact with this guy? I mean I don't mind being friends with him. But its starting to make me uncomfortable about how fondly he's talking about our relationship. I feel like nothing happened between us for him to feel so nostalgic about "us".
Its also all he wants to talk about, which also makes me uncomfortable. Its never, "How are you doing?" or "I bought a hat today". Its only about our practically non-existent relationship. AND HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND. Why is he talking to me like this and about this stuff?
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He sounds like an all talk and no action kind of guy. Probably at some point in his life he'll buy a uniform from a surplus store and talk about how he earned medals in combat.
You on the other hand are something else; you sound much more lucid that I would normally expect from someone your age. You appear to be intelligent, analytical, and mature, so the question I have is why you are even asking about what the right action would be? You clearly already know but I think this is your way of expressing some insecurity. Do the right thing and feel proud of yourself.
Regarding FWB situations; I completely disagree with anyone being used in this way. There are recent studies published that show a direct link between the number of partners and likelihood of successful marriage. You aren't the one getting the "B" in that kind of arrangement.0