I have just gotten out of a long relationship 2 years my first love... About 4 months ago and I have met a guy I work with we see each other everyday and I don't get bored of him he had been asking me out for a month and I turned him down as I didn't want a serious relationship eventually I said yes and we started officially dating although before this when I first met him 4 months ago we would spend hours after work just talking and sitting together, he is perfect my family love him he has a stable job where as my ex was a loser with a drug addiction, I really care about this new guy a lot and like seeing him but I feel as if it's not the same as with my ex there was so much excitement everything was new and a first when I'd see my ex and excitement when he'd message me, now with this new guy there's no excitement when I see him or he messages me it may be because I see him everyday whereas I saw my ex 2-3 times a week, we talk about our futures and joke about it, his super funny and makes me laugh plus his awesome in bed and I'm very attracted to him,but is it enough when there's no 'spark' or nothing that draws me to him, I'm sure I'd miss him if I didn't see him for a week, do you think it's just because I see him everyday and have seen him at least 5 times a week for the past 4 months, so I'm used to seeing him? Please help!
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what kind of spark do you mean?
it sounds like all the necessary things for a good relationship are there. you enjoy his company you find him attractive and the sex is good. Plus your fam likes him...
So I don't understand what draw you are talking about doesn't exist. I mean realize that if you were to marry a guy you'd see him everyday so if your talking about sort of excitement and butterflies then that is something that really only comes from unfamiliarity or rare occurrence.
I don't mean to sound like a doubter or I'm being critical of you. I'm a bit confused by what spark you mean. It sounds like everything between you is great so I'm not sure what you are expecting or what is lacking0