Guy 2: I've known my whole life and had a HUGE secret crush for forever and vice versa. He came back from college and my boyfriend and I had just broken up. I told him I am not ready to be in a relationship due to teh fact that I jsut got out of one and it will take me time. He said no problem and then continues to ask me to be his girlfriend lik 3 times in the space of 2 weeks and constantly mentions it. I told him no because my heart isn't in it fully and I want to get into a relationship and be ready with my whole heart. So we started kissing a few times here and there and we both are virgins. I told him I didn't want to have sex until I was married and he agreed ( we both grew up conservative and being taught that) so we kissed, but werent together and then when making out one night he kind of tried to go in me like 5 times and each time I said no and that I'm waiting... adn thne he goes in after grinding. So virginity gone, I told him I enjoyed it but I'm not doing it again because we aren't even together and I don't like that and... we were kissing again.. and it happened again. I'm not blaming him. I could have fought or yelled or not allowed it to happen but... yeah.
Now I'm doubting that I should be with either guy and am confused about both... Should I really just give up on both and move on? Am I reading this wrongly and its me or are both more... not respecting my words and what I am asking or am I wrong and playing people?
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well you need to make up your mind about who you want and about what you want. then you need to draw very firm lines in the sand so as there is little confusion and no wiggle room for misunderstanding.
I don't think Guy1 is disrespecting you or anything. It just seems like you two had an issue and now you are both having to deal with the fallout
Guy 2 definitely disrespected you and violated your wishes. You don't have to 100% blame him but you should feel violated that he blatantly and repeatedly ignored your objections and essentially forced himself on you.
I'm not sure you're playing people but you are definitely sort of teasing both situations. Make up your mind what you want and who you want and go with it
For the record: While it isn't rape. Guy 2 sounds certainly forced an issue and went against your wishes. now you did consent to some extent so I won't call him a rapist but he clearly did not respect your desires. And regardless of what he says wants sex and will expect it from you