How often to people in a relationship
get into fights
spend time together.
and what not
I know it changes depending how long the couple has dated so what is the average for a couple that has been together for almost a year?
My boyfriend and I are hitting rough patches its because we are far from each other and we talk every day because we live a state away (he is moving back in less than a year and will be home for three months during the summer) so yeah every two weeks we get into a bit of an argument except he doesn't call it that he doesn't think we fight. I guess I get mad and he doesn't
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There might be an average, but a study has never been done on this. Not a REAL study, anyhow. Cosmo articles don't count.
I'm so sorry to hear about your rough patch, hun. I was away from my boyfriend last summer for almost 4 months, and only saw him twice in that time. It was hard, and I had a lot of people trying to conviince me that it wasn't worth it. But we made an effort to try and keep each other in the loop. We didn't talk all day, but he would text me when he got up for work in the morning, and I would text him before I went to bed, and we would send a few texts here and there inbetween. Little gestures like that show that you're thinking of each other. But we bickered a lot in that time to. And like you, I took it much harder than he did. He didn't like our fights but got over them pretty fast, and I was so upset and worried that he would be mad, that I would be mad, etc. Most of our fights involved miscomunication and just simply being frustrated at missing each other. If you are fighting about a specific thing over and over, try and get it out and deal with it. Communication is the key to a LDR. And even when you are pissed at him, just remember to let him know that you love him. Even when it's 2 am and you're pissed that he did X and Y and he doesn't get what he did wrong, sometime's it's okay to agree to talk about it in the morning. And sometimes it's okay to let sleeping dogs lie.
But I don't want you to think that your relationship needs to be "average" or like everyone elses. If you want my oppinion, this is one of the biggest mistakes that women make. They want to know what men like to see women in, so they can wear it. They want to know what the best kind of music is, so they can listen to it. They want to know what the perfect woman is like, so they can be that woman. But this never works. There IS no such thing as a perfect relationship, and stressing about how often you fight/f***/talk/etc will just make you paranoid. Maybe your relationship is different than mine. Maybe you talk more and f*** less. Maybe we fight more and go out less. Maybe we go out more and talk less. Etc. Every person is different, so every relationship is going to be different too. As long as you and your man keep lines of communication open and are always willing to compromise and develop your relationship, you are in a good place. Just try and find a balance where you are happy and you are trying to make him happy. There will be tough days, but work on them together. That's a good place to be in. It might be a different place than where your bestie and her man are, but that's okay.
I hope this helps. I'm sorry that your man is so far away! *hugs* Keep your chin up!