I got back a couple of days later and it seemed as though they were being very flirty toward each other. I confronted her about this, and she became very defensive and annoyed. I brought it up the next day, after the flirtatious behavior continued and she eventually got annoyed at me and suggested we take a break.
About a week later she told me that we were breaking up.
Me and her were supposed to be going on a city break together, that her mother had already paid for as a birthday gift to her. She took the other guy. Fair enough, I'm not her boyfriend anymore. Now she keeps lying about how they are just going as friends. I know that this is not the case. Whenever me or any of the other housemates are in the room she says how awkward it is going to be there with him. And that he is only going so that she won't be there alone.
Obviously we all still live together until the end of the contract, but me and my ex are in different rooms. She went into my room and took some 'main male contracteptive' (wont let me say the word) behind my back. Then on the morning of the day they were going, they thought I was out of the house. But trust me, you can hear everything in that house. They were making out downstairs. And talking about how much fun they were going to have on their trip. Then they left.
After the breakup she blamed it on me, saying that I was too paranoid, and that I shouldn't have thought anything was going on. I admit I am a paranoid person. I was made to be the real bad guy in the break up. But now after hearing them, my opinion is beginning to change. I know I was being paranoid but I don't know if it actually was just paranoia or not.
Basically what I'm trying to ask is the following things:
"Does it seem to you that something might have been going on when we were in the relationship together?"
"How should I now proceed? (They do not know that I know)"
"Does it seem to you that even if she hadn't cheated. That dating again this close to the break up of a long relationship is insensitive?"
"Before I found out, I was upset. Now I am a mixture of happy and pissed off. Happy that I am out of the relationship that was obviously very broken. Is this a normal feeling?"
I would just like to point out that I am not a malicious or violent person. I do not wish to upset their relationship. To be honest I don't really care about it anymore. I just want closure, and to see if I am in the right or in the wrong.
So what does it seem like to you..
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She called you paranoid because it was easier than admitting she messed up. She didn't want to carry any guilt for moving on to another guy right away, she she put it on you. Yes, something was going on. I don't know if they actually hooked up prior to her breaking up with you, but something happened there or she wouldn't be paying him any attention right now.Thank your lucky stars you're not dating her anymore. 1) Because she'd have cheated eventually and 2) Because she's too much of a coward to admit her faults anyway. She'd pin everything on you forever.