When parents divorce, who SHOULD the kids go with

Other than the breadwinner, assuming both parents had equal financial scenarios and neither is a nut case who should the kids go with?

IMO daughters should go with the dad and sons should go with the mom.

If the relationship had left bitter feelings, if kids went with the same gender the parent may teach hateful things. Also, they're IMO more likely to teach opposite gender how to treat/be treated by the opposite.


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  • Don't split up the kids. It's hard enough having the parents split up without making the kids live in separate homes. Either they stay with one parent together, or they go back and forth together. It's not the kids who are getting divorced.

    As for who they 'should' go with, I know a single dad who successfully raised two kids (boy and girl) into responsible, well-mannered teenagers, even though their mother was nasty and unstable. Back when the divorce happened, the courts insisted that the two toddlers should go with the mother, and she attempted to kill them. Even then, the court that the dad appealed to for custody decided that the kids would be better off with the mother's family members rather than their own dad. (This was when it was the norm for divorced mothers to keep the kids.) He finally gained custody and did a great job raising them. So, I think every hard-and-fast rule will have exceptions, and it's best not to have a certain 'policy' or 'rule' about who should have the kids without evaluating each situation separately.

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What Girls Said 2

  • The mothers

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  • Who takes care of them best? Who's taken care of them up until now? Joint-custody is an option, and sometimes the kids are asked who they want to stay with.

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What Guys Said 6

  • When they are old enough they should be able to decide themselves. Before that I'd say whoever has enough time for them or the possibilities to take care of them like they shouldn't have to change schools, possibly not even move ...

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  • 50/50 physical, no child support (since they have similar costs).

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  • There is never a completely right answer to these situations.

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  • Whoever takes care of the child the best.

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  • That's exactly what we need. More boys being raised only by women.

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  • Mommy!

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