So my dilema is that I feel my personality has changed after I dated my ex for about 2 years and was wondering if this has happened to anyone else.
A little about my relationship with her, I dated her for about 2 years, we went along good until we went to college and there everything got f***ed up.
I was probably like the model boyfreind being extremely nice and doing whatever I can to make her happy, I put up with a lot just to make her happy, I would go grocery shopping for her, make her dinners, take her out to expensive dinners and musicals pretty much anything to make her happy.
At college we both did things that hurt the other like she kept telling me that she wanted to be with others guys, she never did while she was with me but who knows, she would usually go online and cyber sex with guys but no cams, I told her to stop cause that was like cheating to me but she lied and kept doing and and I had to find out a couple of times, she would fight over the stupidest things like me getting her the wrong kind of drink etc etc and would freak out over it,
I did some things too to her I think the worst thing I did was steal some money from her cause I was in debt ( I know it was wrong I wish I never did it, I had every intention to pay her back as soon as I could and I did) I was jelous and suspicious later on after what she told me and did. I feel like I have been emotionally and mentally screwed with.
we broke a couple months after college in the summer and went our separate ways, since then she went on to have sex with 8 other guys and I just had some clean fun by going bars with my friends in toronto and having fun, after a couple months she wanted to get back together cause she realized that I was a good boyfriend and wanted me back cause she missed how I treated her and such so we got back together and now I am not the same as I was with her way back then
i do love her but I don't think I love her the same she does me I feel I have gotten harsher and meaner ( which I never was before I was a nice kind person) to her as I am nowhere the person I was before and she realizes that too as she mentioned it alot
i don't know if its my personality now or I'm just like that to her so I'm wondering if this has happened to anyone else? any answer will be awesome and the best answer will get best answer thing.
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Yeah the same happened to me but the other way around.
I was in my "player" period so I was extra confident, judgemental, and arrogant. I picked her up, we dated, and I uncounsciously hurted her many times by being a jerk. we dated for a year and a half.
I realized she was hurt by my character so I slowly became to change for her. I became nicer (my game level dropped down... I was so pissed at that later on).
As I became nicer we also had other couple issues (ex and sh*t...)
We ended up breaking up, but she was feeling better in the overall (since I was nicer) and me, because of becoming some soft f**g, I allowed her to hurt me as well. (guess I half deserved it).
In your case, you totally gave her all the power I am quite shocked to be honest.
" I would go grocery shopping for her, make her dinners, take her out to expensive dinners and musicals pretty much anything to make her happy."
... wow... It's like she could also use your face and your dignity to wipe the floor with, if she wanted to...
"fight over the stupidest things like me getting her the wrong kind of drink "
I mean WOAW bro. I would have emptied the drink on her face for acting like such disrespectful spoilt brat.
You sir, have a legendary patience.