- Yes, I'd Forgive Them And Stay With Them
- No, I'd Break Up With Them
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Cheating isn't a deal-breaker for me- but lying is. If my (hypothetical) boyfriend came to me and told me about it himself, and we could talk about the circumstances and he could say that it was a one-shot deal and not something that was indicative of what I could expect from him in the future, I could let it slide. Sometimes something seems like a really good idea at the time- but then later after you do it, you realize what a horrid idea it actually was. If he were good to me in all other aspects of our relationship, I could feel good about moving on from an incident.
If I had to find out on my own or from someone else, it's done. Also his approach would have a lot of weight, too. If Dude felt bad (I'm assuming if he is my boyfriend I know him well enough to be able to gauge that) and was truly sorry, I could forgive. If he was like "oh, yeah- by the way- I banged so-and-so yesterday.. hahahaha"... then no.
I have cheated on a boyfriend before, and I felt awful. I brought it to him and he was upset and hurt, but he did not sh*tcan me- and I never cheated on him again. We broke up eventually because of other sh*t, but I never forgot how he handled that situation or how grateful I was that he accepted my apology and forgave me. I think were I in that situation- with the roles reversed- that I could handle it like he did. He gave me an excellent template to work off of, and I have never forgotten it.0