I have this one friend who recently got back together with her disrespectful boyfriend. I spent 3 months trying to help her get through her situation when she broke up with him. On Saint Patrick's Day there was a parade in town and I was suppose to go with her but I didn't know that her "man" was going to be there and so therefore she ditched me for him. Now I know that would not be considered a friend and I didn't tell her anything about it until she brought an issue she had with me. The issue was me being serious around her and not acting like myself. I told her what I thought was wrong and she apologized for it.
She didn't want to tell me she was back with her ex boy friend because she knows how I feel about him and she knows I am always straight forwards with my feelings, regardless of who you are. Eventually she began asking me for advice pertaining to this idiot and me being her friend I gave her the best positive advice I could. It's basically a dysfunctional and violent relationship, a relationship I've experienced on my own a while ago. She kept asking me for advice and I got upset and told her I couldn't keep giving her advice because it is her relationship and I didn't want to get involved. I voiced my opinion about her relationship and her boyfriend and she got upset so she stopped talking to me because of it. I understand that is her man and she loves him but she's really sstupid in going back with him But whatever, everyone learns their lesson as some point. Anyways.. I saw her and him at the gym and I felt badbecause we got into an argument because of that piece of **** and sit bothers me because I thought our frieendship was stronger thhan that, but I gues I was wrong. Anyways.. has this ever happened to any of you?
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Yes, it is common for your friends, even so-called best friends, to not listen to advice. You just have to accept the fact that people will do as they please regardless of what you tell them. Sometimes it's better for them to live their life and learn from their own mistakes for them to fully grasp it. I've had several "I told you so" moments with my best friend who is no longer with the significant other in question. I never got a "you were right" or a "I should have listened to you" from her; and I never rubbed it in her face. I learned to give advice from a neutral stand point, not judging or letting my opinions of the other person get in the way. As you get older it becomes easier to just listen and agree. No matter how frustrating that sounds, you'll be happier, and keep your friendship going. Also, remember that not everyone thinks as logical as you do; your friend could have unresolved issues that she needs to work on by herself if she keeps going back to an abusive relationship.