Falling for each other but can't be together cause of exes etc?

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1.me and my best friend both are not over our exes

2. we fell for each other cause we are both what we want in a partner completely and we love each other but not in love with each other if that makes sense

3. the feelings for our exes and each other are conflicting us so multiple times we've tried to stay friends and not kiss but we failed, we had sex like 2 sessions and one quickie but we are planning to never do that again.

4. we have so much damn chemistry and he;s my best friend ever, we support care and love each other and always there for each other and hence we don't wanna ruin the friendship

5. let me just say I have taken measures to get over my toxic ex which is cut ties with him so I may get over my ex sooner than him

6. my relationship with my ex lasted 3 years ,his 8 yrs, and I'm more over my ex than he is with his and he still has somewhat a bit contact with his ex cause he feels guilty how his ex father died last year

7. I've been single for 6 mths and him 11 mths

8. we spend a lot of time together

9. we get jealous when other people get interested in either of us and we say we don't get jealous but then the way we react we both no is jealousy

10. we don't wanna distance cause we wanna face our dilemma here and fix it

11. we really wanna get back onto be best friends and we wanna go with the flow ...we both hope that one day destiny will let us actually end up together

12. we both admitted that we both have thought about marrying each other, what our kids would be like, and we kinda joke about situations with our future kids which is kinda weird for besties to do

13. it's hard to want other people when he's this amazing guy and everything I ever wanted in a man, and he says I' the perfect girl too

14. Anyone has ever been in a situation like this , what's your advice?
He says he wants to be single for a while and be over his ex and if to ever be with me to give me 100% and I appreciate that and I wanna do the same for him ...I wish he would just take the chance and risk and be with me...cause I'm willing to take that risk one day
I never wanna rush him or myself cause I want to be with him when it's right..and I've never told him I wanna be his girlfriend right now and he says he never wants to hold me back.. when we decided to just stay friends we both cried and we both felt like it was some break up of a relationship that didn't exist.we both hurt for each other and love each other and we both don't ever wanna lose each other in life.like he constantly says to me " I don't ever wanna lose you, don't ever stop being in my life"
We wanna try and just stay best friends right now...honestly I don't wanna stay friends forever...but he means so damn much to me that if I just have a friendship that we have which is already so true and beautiful and makes me happy...then I am willing to be his best friend for life...he always says when he thinks of me being with someone else or marrying someone else it hurts him so bad and that so bad he has cried at the thought , he really hates that he's not over his ex who was the worst


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  • You should just wait for him.

    Time will help him get over, and he'll be with you.

    Give him time.

    • Yea but he says he wants to be single for a long while...and I don't know how long that is...and he told me he doesn't wanna hold me back cause he is not sure when he'll be completely over her...and he says although it's gonna hurt to see me with someone else or regret if I married my next boyfriend, he wants me to date other guys...and if by te time we're both ready and over exes we'll happen...i told him we have to let each other just be best friends if it's meant to be we will happen

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    • i feel like I've been friend zoned this time and luckily we are both super mature and understanding and value each other so much in life so being best friends is something we must have at least. I guess I should just be me and go with the flow , be the best friend and be there for him..i guess he fell for me for a reason so I'll let him keep falling..and this distance physically and with affection will make him grow fonder for me.he's already begging for a kiss etc and I tell him no or act silly

    • Thanks for answering by the way :)

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