Okay, a little back story. We’re both in our mid 20’s. She is going to turn 25 soon and I’m 24.5 . We both have great jobs and our careers/life together. I broke up with the greatest girl I’d ever met 3 months ago because I was scared of commitment and worried I hadn’t had enough life experiences yet. This was something I had been thinking about for months and finally pulled the trigger on. Part of me wishes I hadn’t, but the stupid feeling wouldn’t go away.
I went out and experienced a lot of things for 2.5 months after we broke up. Thought about her at least once a week, but did not feel I was ready to talk to her. Maybe I should have……… :/
I finally realized was ready for a true commitment and to talk to her about 2 weeks ago. First thing I did was stupid. I seemed to thing she was at the same place emotionally as before or as me (selfish, I know), not realizing she may have moved on. I thought this because we we’re still tagged together in all our pics on Facebook. So, I texted her one afternoon asking her if she still walked on the trail behind her house. She didn’t answer. I texted her again 2 hrs later and said I would be on the trail today for a run and hoped to see her, but would understand if I didn’t. She never showed……… I wait 3 hrs. I was so hurt, I went right to her house and LIGHTLY knocked on her door. She didn’t answer so I texted her again and said I just wanted to talk and see how she is doing. She responded “I’m fine, but I am uncomfortable with you coming to my house uninvited, please go. Thank you”. I apologized and quickly left. I knew I shouldn’t have done it but I let my emotions take over. I also text her and asked if she hated me? Also stupid, I know now. She said she did not hate me, but was not ready to talk or be friend right now. I said I understand and left it at the for a little over a week.
The following week I texted her and apologized again for showing up at her apartment. I told her it was foolish and I shouldn’t have surprised her like that. She didn’t answer. The next day she untagged all of our pictures together on Facebook. I was really hurt by that, but didn’t untag mine just yet. Her mom text me the following night and said “Please leave **** alone she is finally moving on with her life”. Then she said “Call me if you need to talk”. I had a pretty good relationship with her mom in the past so I figured I’d call and tell her how much I cared about her daughter and why I couldn’t just let her go. We talked and her mom supported me. Told me to send her daughter flowers ASAP and a letter. I didn’t think it was a good idea, but I figured her mom knew best. So I spent 3 hours writing a letter and another hour picking out flowers.
In the letter I tried to start it off by being funny……. Told her to go look at a funny video online before reading any further. Seems dumb now. Then I basically told her how I still thought about her and why it took me so long to contact her again and how sorry I was for hurtin
She sent me an email the following day. She did not thank me for the flowers or anything. She just said she hopes what I said about improving myself was true and that I did it for myself and not for her. Then she sa
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How long were you together what were you like with each other when hyou were together?
depends on what sort of relationship you had it could mean she is still hurt by what you did and is now scared herself, (this is how this fear starts) and thinks if she takes you back she will get burnt and never get over it!
my bf first brokke up with me a week into relationship saying he just didn't feel as strong as i did, we had this amazing connection and chemistry we could talk about anything and everything policitcs everything we were on same level he came back a month later when i asked if he wanted drinks pretty much regretting his decision told me he was terrified it was all too good to be true and id turn out like his ex and hed get his heart broken.
i took him back cause i couldnt fight that connection we had after three months of staying at mine 3 days a week (other four days he had his son) he would text me all day everyday we always said morning to each toher and night he would tell me he missed me after only one day and that he loved me but couldnt say "i love you" yet i syupidly spoke about our future and pushed it making him push me away one morning it was all morning babe xxxx can't wait to see you tonight xxxx
then by evening he had convinced himself of leaving me he turned up told me he liked me but didn't go beyond that (obvious bull****) by pushing the future talk i scared him, now he thinks (i really know him well as he does me ) if he hurts me saying he doesn't feel for me then ill move on he tells me i can find a guy a hell of a lot better than him and he is not this hgreat guy i think he is. He claims it is not like the first time he dumped me however he given me the same speech.
I know he is scared we grew so close and were best friends and always together when we could be and he has even told me two days after break up he misses me. i will wait for him cause we were that close and i love him. But many won't0