What do you consider cheating?

My boyfriend recently told me that he thought about cheating on me within the first month of our relationship. It was hard to take but he gave me a name and everything. Since he physically didn't do anything I forgave him. But now every time he even looks at a girl longer than a glance, I get nervous and upset. Sometimes he notices and we fight. I know I'm a bit more insecure now because of what he told me but he has a hobby of people watching. It's almost a fear that he's looking for someone better. However I've caught him numerous times talking to ex girlfriends telling them he wants them back. It's been about 4 months since that last happened after we had a super long talk about it all. I've probably given too many second chances by now but how far is too far? I want to be more than a girl he's messy around with and if he's using me than I deserve the right to know. Has he mentally cheated on me?

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  • Generally I consider physical cheating to be pretty simple, and straightforward. Anything from a kiss or beyond is cheating to me, but that's my definition on physical cheating, though it could be forgiven if it were like an acting gig or something. Emotional or mental cheating is much more complicated, and harder to nail down. It's not sexual, and it's something you can't really control. However, if it can't be worked out, then it's something you need to accept as a loss, and just break it off.

    In your case, your boyfriend really kinda sucks. Sure he's being honest about it, but man... he still sucks. He wanted to cheat on you in the first month, he leers at other girls, and he's actively talking to his ExGFs, telling them he wants them back. Your relationship is in serious trouble, and I do NOT think it's your fault. It's him. Clearly. He's not going to change, and this is not going to get better. If he hasn't cheated yet, it seems to me that it's just a matter of time, by now.

    What to do?

    Well, he says he wants to be with someone else, I say let him. Kick him to the curb. He doesn't appreciate you, he's not happy, and he is constantly trying to cheat or trade up for someone he thinks is better. This is not healthy, and you deserve better than him. Break up with him. He has a cheating heart and that's not going to get fixed. So end it, and cut all ties as soon as possible.

    You deserve better. You can do better. You can get better. End it, cut ties, and move on.

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  • The ex-girlfriends comment is no longer mentally cheating. That is him actively pursuing another girl. If you've already given him numerous second chances and your on say the 3rd 4th or 5th, you should reevaluate your relationship with him. Most likely it'll end with you saying bye, if he tries saying come back to me, say no, because people don't change, unless they really want to.

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  • "However I've caught him numerous times talking to ex girlfriends telling them he wants them back"

    THAT, is unacceptable. You better find someone else quickly.

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  • He's taking his chances too far. You should definitely leave him.

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  • I stopped reading after talking to exes part. It's one thing to keep in contact with your exes, it's another to say you want them back. Dump him and find someone who won't make you insecure and worry about whether or not he's going to sleep with one of his exes.

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