How do you move forward in life?

I realized that instead of making things happen, things happen by itself. like sure I was the one who worked hard to get into uni, but all I did was study hard and pay attention in class. I feel like things just move forward, and they drag me with it. how do I move forward in life through doing it by myself? I guess my question is how does one grow up and not be afraid of taking the next steps in life? I feel like the steps I'm taking were all steps made for me, like middle school, secondary school, uni.


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  • Dear Jessika,

    1st you must know that by this question you showed an important advancement in maturity.

    Yes...the actual question is "who are you?"..."what is your rule in life?"...more importantly..."what do YOU want to be?".

    Now after we rephrased the question it become a bit clear...since asking the accurate question is half way knowing the answer.

    From my experience -and I got miles on me :D- you're one of those whom I call "pioneers" a person who refuse to take matters for granted...always wants more in life...want to have an important role in society...for those people...I always raise my hat in due respect :-)

    So the task is the following:

    1. Who are you? ====> your current situation===> a student studying (...)

    2 Who do you wanna be? =====> your airplane pilot, a lawyer, a rock rule you should never forget...dream listlessly

    3. What is your ultimate goal in life?=====> curing a disease, ending world hunger...etc====>very important, you know why? because such goal might be the last straw to give you a reason to fight for living me it is true.

    4. Once you provide answers, comes the part where you make a road map to reach your dream and ultimate goal in life...starting with what you should learn to reach such gol, ending with financially planning the whole thing.

    Very important note, dreams changes along the way...don't panic or force yourself to pursue an old dream if you lost interests in it and found another one...because a dream is just a mean for you to enjoy life...more importantly enjoy living your life.

    Another important note...ignore others who you know by heart they don't care for you if they criticize you for being a pioneer and not a just a small part in the great machine of life!

    I wish you the best of luck...seriously :-)


    W H


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  • I got a few Quotes about it :)

    -Don't hold strong opinions about things you don't understand.

    -My time has come, and so I'm gone. To a better place, far beyond. I love you all as you can see. But it's better now, because I'm free.

    -Sometimes you need to run away just to see who will follow you.

    -It's hard to answer the question "what's wrong" when nothings right.

    -I'm tired of trying, sick of crying, I know I've been smiling, but inside I'm dying.

    -Maybe one day it will be OK again. That's all I want. I don't care what it takes. I just want to be OK again.

    -When I was younger crying always seemed to be the answer. Now that I'm older crying seems to be the only option.

    -I guess there comes a point where you just have to stop trying because it hurts to much to hold on anymore.

    -You say I'm always happy, and that I'm good at what I do, but what you'll never realize is, I'm a damn good actress too.

    -Just because I'm smiling doesn't mean I'm happy.

    -Tired of living and scared of dying.

    -I don't necessarily want to be happy; I just want to stop feeling miserable.

    -Don't fall into the trap of pretending everything's fine when you know it isn't.

    -The hardest years in life are those between ten and seventy.

    -I'm just learning how to smile, and that's not easy to do.

    -Sometimes it hurts more to smile in front of everyone, then to cry all alone.

    -I want to be remembered as the girl who always smiled the one who could brighten up your day, even if she couldn't brighten her own.

    -Just when I thought my life was coming together, I realized it was just starting to fall apart.

    -Stop the world I wanna get off.

    -I bleed for you that's why I cut those simple scars are just deep thoughts.

    -You bleed just to know your alive.

    -Death is God's way of saying you're fired. Suicide is humans way of saying you can't fire me, I quit.

    -I don't know what I want in life. I don't know what I want right now. All I know is that I'm hurting so much inside that it's eating me, and one day, there won't be any of me left.

    -Everything that ever caused a tear to trickle down my cheek, I run away and hide from it. But now, everything is unwinding and finding its way back towards me. And I don't know what to do. I just know that pain I felt so long ago, it's hurting ten time more.

    -It's the loneliest feeling in the world - to find yourself standing up when everyone else is sitting down. To have everybody look at you and say "what's the matter with her?" I know what it feels like. Walking down an empty street, listening to the sound of your own footsteps. Shutters closed, blinds drawn, doors locked against you. And you aren't sure whether you're walking toward something, or if you're just walking away.

    -You start life with a clean slate. Then you begin to make your mark. You face decisions, make choices. You keep moving forward. But sooner or later there comes a time where you look back over where you have been and wonder who you really are.

    Hope this helps ^_^


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