the next day, week, a month later, months later?
Do you date someone or just decide to be single for a while?
Don't rush off looking for someone else to fill the hole that was left by the breakup. It won't work. Just enjoy being single, and my advice, don't go looking for a relationship right away. It will come to you. Who knows, the one meant for you may be right around the corner. Don't rush things, take your time and enjoy the time you have to yourself.
A good rule of thumb: for every year of the relationship, you need a month of being single. So, if you dated for 7 years, then you should be single for at least 7 months before getting into another relationship.
The bigger issue is that many people refuse to accept that a relationship is over, and they hold out hope that they can "fix it" and get back together, despite all the evidence to the contrary. In that case, they never even START the "getting over it" clock, even if months or years have gone by. The clock doesn't start until you've accepted that your previous relationship is over.
Take time to grieve. Don't rush it. Don't use someone else to fill that void: let yourself grow through it. Then be happy being single, and when you are genuinely happy being single, be open to new relationships.
Depending on the depth of your relationship, it may take months, perhaps even years. But that's OK. It could also be shorter. Who knows? Take care of You. That way whenever someone else comes along, you'll be ready! :o)
generally as soon as I can
For me it depends! I got out of an 8 month relationship about 2 and a half months ago and was really hurt when it first happened. I thought it would take me a long time to get over him but with time I realized that how he ended things was awful and I had done nothing wrong. At this point I feel like I am over him, however am not quite ready to 'date' yet! I did meet another wonderful man and told him this and he was so respectful in saying that he understood and that he expected nothing from me and would like nothing more than my company...nothing else expected!
And I think because of how my previous relationship ended, I was able to move on a lot faster than if he had ended things in a respectful and mature way.
For me it is important to take time for yourself and heal. I would never start dating someone right away out of respect for myself and for the other person (I would never want them to feel like they were a rebound). And I am not the type of person who has flings or one nights stands, it's just not my thing. When I meet someone that I like I want to be sure I have fully moved on to be fair to the next man :)
It depends on the person. Its been almost 11 months since my break up, and I still haven't been able to full and completely move on. And that's only because its was a horrible horrible break up. He was my first and only love, and I haven't been able to date someone since. We dated for over 2 years, which for me is a while to be with someone. And then just one day...i dunno, I guess he just stopped loving me, and gave up and didn't want to try anymore. He wouldn't talk to me, or anything. Just nothing. It was terrible. Oh and not to mention he had a new girlfriend 2 months after we broke up...soo yuppp... It really all depends on the person, how they take it, and how the breakup was
he broke up with me 9 months ago..in an over 10 yr. relationship...i thought I will never want to be with anyone else...i still know...
i met someone recently...and not sure if I am even really ... so everyone is different..every situation is different...give yourself time
For me I have a bad habit moving on too fast. I will mourn one week, one month, depends on how long it takes until I found a new guy. If I could find a new guy within the next month, I will move on at that moment immediately lol! Yes I know it's not healthy, but I'm kind of angry with myself too because sometimes I really envy those girls who could live single without needing to be with anyone in their life :)
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