She left me 2 months She is 18, I'm 20. We dated for 3 1/2 years. We went out once since the breakup, and afterward she said she needs more time and space, and that she doesn't want me dating any one, and she promises to do the same. ( I trust her, and I know she is being honest) I asked her out again, but she said no. I want to do no contact, but it's very difficult for me. I always want to talk to her. I won't give up as long as there is the smallest chance we will get back together. I love this girl. I smothered her, and kept her away from her friends. I know my faults, and I have worked on them, and I'm ready to prove them to her that I have changed. If there is anyway to get her back, please help me figure out a way. She isn't going away to college, and we live pretty close to each other. This upcoming Weekend I'm going away. I know it will solve nothing, but I am getting drunk, and burning her love letters. If we do get back together, I want a new relationship, not the old one. I loved much of the old parts, but in order for us to work, it has to be a new one. I haven't contacted her in a week, and haven't really updated my Facebook. I made a status today, and she liked it within about 30 seconds. I assume she is following me or something on Facebook. The status had nothing to do with the relationship!
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Too bad there isn't some sort of magical frying pan that I can hypothetically use to smack some sense into you.
I'm going to tell it to you straight: She's keeping you on a leash.
Everything from your post screams that she wears the pants in this "relationship".
She says that she wants space but she doesn't want you to date anyone else? No wait, she doesn't want YOU BOTH to date. Yet she knows she has you so wrapped that you'll buy anything she says. How bleeped up is that?
One might argue with me, "we're meant to be together"
But the fact of the matter is -- YOU GUYS AREN'T TOGETHER.
Girls are very obvious creatures when it comes to who they want to be with. If she wanted to be with you, she would BE WITH YOU.
One of the worst things we sexes do to each other is give the hope that the relationship COULD be more than it is.
Moving on to something you WANT to hear...
If you want to get her back: You need to treat her with indifference.
What is indifference you ask? Okay, think of someone you really like. How do you feel? Now think of someone you really despise. How do you feel? Now think of that speck of dust on your floor? Don't you feel like it's completely insignificant?
THAT is how you need to respond to her. Notice how I said respond and not approach? It's obvious that you have been the one chasing her. Relationships are all about compromising and so far she hasn't done her share.
It may take a while but I promise you'll notice a difference in her attitude towards you. I can't promise you that she'll want a romantic relationship with you but I can promise you that you'll find a new RESPECT for yourself that you never thought possible.
In the meantime, focus on bettering yourself. Is there a friend you've neglected? Get in touch. What about a hobby you've always wanted to try? Go for it.
Women and men aren't that different: We both want someone who WANTS us but does not NEED us.0