My ex girlfriend dumped me months ago, she said she still wanted to remain friends, I tried to get her back, she said no, we went NC for a few months while I was working through my depression.
I saw her at a gathering a few months after the breakup and while it was awkward, it was civil enough. In light of what she told me during the breakup, I did not know whether to interpret her cordiality as her being open to a reconciliation, or simply being friendly.
A month passed by and I saw her again at another event. She was extremely cold and even slightly rude to me. I later found out that she was asking around if I was dating someone and was convinced that I was (in fact, I had some casual dates and was out with a female friend along with one of my ex's friends).
If I wanted a reconciliation, did I ruin it by dating and being friendly with women in front of my ex's friends? I would take my ex back, but I feel she is the one who should make the move since she dumped me and spurned my initial attempts at reconciliation. Perhaps I am being prideful, but how healthy of a relationship would be if she knew she could dump me at anytime and I would always come crawling back. I also wanted to get better and keep my options open by dating again.
However, given my ex's cold response, I am starting to feel as though I possibly made a mistake by dating before I knew for certain what my ex's intentions were?
What do ladies and even gents think? Thanks.
I will most likely see the ex again in a few weeks at an event. I am concerned that she will try to make me upset again by either completely giving me the cold shoulder or bringing some dude so she can throw that it my face.
Should I continue to be gracious/take the high road and give her a quick smile/nod/wave hello if we make eye contact, or ignore completely?
Up until now, whenever I bump into her, I always initiate and approach her with a hello.
Since her last chilly reception and given the fact that she thinks I am dating someone when I am not, I am concerned she will have something else up her sleeve to make me feel bad. She may show up with a dude and be all over him in front of me.
I feel better when I don't see or hear of her. But, then my friends may be disappointed.
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Sounds like she just wants your attention, nothing more. To have you, without actually having to be in a relationship with you. Sounds pretty selfish, doesn't it? I don't blame you for wanting to keep your pride. She WANTS you to crawl back to her, that's why she isn't saying anything directly to you. She wants you to come back to her "on your own", so to say. She doesn't want YOU, she wants your attention. That's also why she's asking around if you're dating anyone. She's assuming that, simply because you're not crawling back to her. And I'm pretty sure that if you did try to get back together with her, she'd just reject you all over again. If not immediately, then after leading you on for a while.
You didn't make a mistake, you dodged a bullet by not going back to her. Leave her be, she sounds like a royal pain in the ass.1
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