I met an amazing girl who seems great. We get along well, the attraction is mutual, have similar interests, etc. On paper it looks great. The issue is that something feels off when we're together. I don't know what it is, but it feels weird in my gut. I guess I'm also worried long-term if it can work because we're both very stubborn, and my parents are stubborn also. My parents have been married for 20+ years but fight a lot and I don't want that in a relationship.
Also, I just broke up with my ex of a year a few months ago. I was completely in love with her, more than anyone else. And it was rather heartbreaking how it ended, it just ended, no reason she just lost interest. So as you can imagine, my emotions are a bit erratic and I'm not sure if I can trust them. So what should I do? Should I go against my gut and have a relationship with this girl? Or hold out for someone else?
- Have a relationship with herVote A
- Don't have a relationship with herVote B
- Other or resultsVote C
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a lot of people feel this way, they get cold feet, that's why the other party wonders 'did I scare him/her away?' but let me tell you something, I think you are getting a little too ahead of yourself, and are acting like if you get with this girl you're gonna have be stuck with her and marry her or something. do you even know what Dating is? dating is when two people like each other enough to want to get to know MORE about each other, you go somewhere nice hang out and have a good time. is one date with this girl going to a movie having a nice dinner walking in the park going to kill you? I don't think so. I think if you let this opportunity go and lose her, then it will kill you even more. because once you reject someone, its really hard to get them back, they will never feel comfortable around you again even if they still have feelings for you, they will be insecure that you didn't want them in the begging and she wasn't your first choice. so you need to be careful what decision you make. I think you should take it easy, one step at a time, and let her know you are INTERESTED but you would like to get to know her more by taking her out on a date, also exchange numbers and just start talking. no one finds their life partner over night. you have to meet several dating partners before you find the one, otherwise how do you know what good true love is if you haven't experienced the bad to compare it with? if you didn't break up with your last girlfriend, how would you even know what love really is without going on to meet new girls? everyone has good and bad dating experiences but its all a learning process.
so the answer is no don't jump into a relationship, relationship is a gradual thing, you should just be clear with your intentions with her that you want to get to know her more and date. either way she can be a good platonic friend in the long run.0