My ex keeps saying that he is going to kill himself. He has called me over to his place before because he was cutting himself. I cleaned him up and tried to make him feel better. And although I do not want to see any harm come to him, its starting to get to the point where I can't take it anymore. And although we are friendly to each other, I am not with him, nor will I get back with him. I'm just not sure how to handle this situation. I know that he wants to get back together, and I fear if I tell him that I have started seeing someone else he might actually kill himself. What do I do?
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My first serious relationship was complicated. I was young, naive, and self-absorbed.
She cut herself. She talked about killing herself from time to time. She told me if I ever left her she would do it. I talked myself into believing she wouldn't really do it. She had cut herself so often that I thought that was all she would do. It was normal.
I eventually broke it off. I moved cities and put some distance between us.
I remember the phone ringing one day and hearing her voice on the other end. This was some time later. I don't know how she got my number but it didn't matter.
I remember saying "who is this" knowing full well who it was. She said her name and I don't know why I said it, I didn't think, but I said "don't ever call me again" and she didn't.
She's dead. She slit her wrist and bled out.
I swear to you I felt the weight of that day for years to come. You don't want that. Talk to someone. I don't know who but don't make the same mistake. It'll never leave you.1