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As soon as your boyfriend started talking badly about his ex girlfriend, that was a warning sign. Now that he's back with her, it's likely that he's talking badly about you. This is a misunderstanding, and if your boyfriend won't hear you out, then that's too bad for him. He should have listened to your story first. But it's likely that at the time that he found out that there were rumors going on, he thought you were just like his ex, and so broke up with you, and in no time got back with his ex. I think that it could be that your ex-boyfriend is only in the relationships to sleep with the girl he's with. Is this true?
Your boyfriend's current girlfriend was not the right person from him. He just got back with her again, especially after breaking up with you, and that sounds kind of shallow of him. Next time, try not to get scared, but what you did was you vented to your friend. But you vented towards the wrong person, and you didn't say that it was you. But it's also true that the girl (is she your friend?) should not have told so many people. It's likely that she thought you were gossiping, and so told other people.
You should have explained it to your boyfriend/ex-boyfriend. That's the problem with an inability to listen. Your boyfriend/ex didn't listen to what you had to say, and that's why some relationships fail. You should have said "I was scared, because pregnancy is a scary time, and so I went to a girl who went through the same thing, thinking I could get help from her. I didn't tell her it was me, and she spread rumors to other people, perhaps thinking that what I was telling her were rumors too. I didn't mean for this to happen." This is what you would have said to communicate properly, but now, since your boyfriend broke up with you and got with his ex, you should forget about him. He's not good enough for you.
However, don't wonder why he did this to you. He may have said that he was done with her, but he didn't get his priorities straight. People are like that sometimes. They say one thing and do another, and they don't know what's best for themselves. He made a mistake, and so did the girl you went to talk to.
Did he say for you to not be sad because he didn't care, or did he say for you to not be said because you didn't care about him?
Go to the girl you talked to, and tell her that you're upset. Tell her that the person you were talking about was you yourself, and that by spreading rumors, it caused your boyfriend to break up with you because he had thought that you were spreading rumors. But what isn't clear to me, is if the girl you talked to didn't know it was you, why would this be a problem? Why would your boyfriend have suspected that it was you?
Next time, wait until you have a stable career and a well-paying job before you get a baby.
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