Ok try to make this short and sweet..we married in 1995..we were both really young in our early 20"s...divorced in 1998 he was abusive and had a drug problem. I did not speak to him for 12 yrs. talked again for the first time in 2009 online. He told me he had his own business and was straight and used no drugs. He had totally changed his life around. He flew me to see him in 2010. We still had a major spark and he confessed he never stopped loving me or looking for me. He hired 2 private investigaters to find me. We married again but divorced 4 months later. Went to fast and he has a child he is close with his son is 3 years old. The mother is out of her mind and when she found out we were married she flipped her lid literally! Stopped letting him see his son, harrassed us constantly and way she could...it was to much for our brand new kindled romance to take. BUT we kept in contact and I JUST moved back to where he lives but on my own this time. He texts/calls me ALL the time. Wanting to do things together, I have not gone out with him at all at this point, telling me he is not feeling well, just keeping me posted on every aspect of his life! What he is doing? Why won't he just let me go? He used to ALL WAYS say we were soul mates...is he obsessed? This does not seem like normal divorced man behavior to me? Oh and to let you know, did not move back here for him..this is where my family is and the area I grew up in, he just happens to be here also.
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Whether he's obsessed or not, it seems like he never got over you. That's not really surprising given that you were married twice. It's not that unusual. I've known lots of people who are still hung up on an ex even after marrying someone else. Thinking that getting back together will work THIS time is a fantasy for most men and women who think like that. He might never get completely over it. In any case, it seems unlikely that he could manage being just friends with you.1