So he broke up with me after an almost 3 year relationship from a day to another, saying he grew out of love. I have been applying the no contact rule for a month now, with no contact at all, and suddenly I got an inbox from him yesterday calling me how he used to call me when we were together, wishing me luck for my eye surgery, which I don't know how he found out of. Why did he do that? Is he just being condescending?
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One of two things are likely going on here, either he has discovered that he hadn't fallen out of love with you, he had just moved on to a more mature phase but didn't recognize it for what it was, or the other possibility is that he really is not wanting a romantic relationship anymore but still cares about you as a person. Guys his age often don't really understand their own feelings very well, you were probably ready to get married, he dreaded being tied down.
I'm pretty certain he wasn't being condescending - read some of my other answers and you'll see that I'm not a sympathetic person.1