Most Helpful Girl
If you really understand narcissism you will know he never loved you never cared he was using you. So yes it was all fake. I was in a relationship with one for 2-3 years. I did a lot of research about it. I suggest having no contact with him. for many reasons. 1) he is only in contact with you to once again use you. He just likes the validation etc etc if his new gf said dont speak to you he would cut you off in a heart beat 2) the more you talk to him even if you think its harmless the more brainwashed you become again. You said you saw that your bf was a narcissist after the break up. That is because your mind had time to get clarity. You can't have clarity when they are manipulating you (even if subtely). Any time they open their mouths they are manipulating you. If they are talking to you they want or need something from you. Don't allow him to have it. Do not let this person back in, he will just use you and leave when he doesn't need you. He lacks a conscience. Never forget that. If you know he is a narcissist there really is no discussion needed. If you see a soft side (its fake) he wants you to see this to lure you back in, keep youthere on a string. He does what he does to make you feel what he wants you to feel. If he wants you to think he is sweet, he fakes sweet. If he wants you to think he is faithful, he lies about how much he is an honest guy. He will do what it takes to get what he wants because he can because he lacks conscience. do not for one second think it is genuine if he is a narcissist. which it sounds he is. AND HE IS. DON"T DOUBT IT FOR A SECOND.