I am head over heels in love with my boyfriend. It sounds cliche, but he is my whole world. He's my best friend, my confidant.
There's just one problem. His mother. She hates me. I ran into her at the store the other day and told me, "I don't want you around anymore. I don't care how you do it, but you will break up with my son. I don't want you to show your face around here after the fourth."
She went on to tell me that she would not allow her son to see me or have any contact with me, Facebook, calling, or otherwise, after the fourth.
She is a very intimidating woman. She has me by a foot and about forty pounds. That, combined with the fact that she's always been very cold toward me, despite my attempts to win her over, make me very afraid of her. I've done nothing for the past three years but try to win her affection. His father and his sisters and their husbands and his cousins - basically his entire family loves me. Except her. Everything that he does wrong (a bad grade/a poor swim time) is my fault to her even though we don't attend the same school.
I'm basically devastated. I went home and cried about it. I haven't mentioned it to him. They're having me over for the fourth so she can watch me break up with him in person.
Only I'm not going to be able to do it without crying. She said she'd let me in their house, watch me break up with him, then I'd have to get out.
I'm just a mess. He was the one, you know? We were discussing marriage in the future. I know none of you are going to believe this, but I'm not going to be with anyone else. I'd been crushing on him since I was twelve. I'm twenty now. I just can't imagine my life without him in it. He was the one person I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. And she just shut that door in my face.
I know we're both adults so we can do whatever we want, but he still lives at home and so we have to follow his parent's wishes.
I spoke to my parents about it and all they had to say was, "Buck up. You have to respect her wishes."
So...I'm not sure what my question is here, but I haven't eaten for the past three days, have been crying the entire time - I can hardly hold it in for work - and have been throwing up because I'm so upset.
I'm just at a total loss. He's been my best friend since I was 12. She wants me to cut him out of my life totally.
How do I break up with him? How do I explain it with her right there? Is there any way not to?
Any advice for me?
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My advice?Get some backbone.His mother is intimidating you because she knows she CAN.She is only doing this because she knows you aren't going to do anything but cry about it.People treat you ONLY how you allow them to.But,I guarantee if you actually got some guts and speak up for yourself,she would fall back and back down.Some people are like that.Anyway,you're grown...but sadly acting like a child.If you want her son,then you need to step up...and HE NEEDS to step up.If both of you are acting like children in this situation,then his mom will continue to dominate.1