I met him on okcupid. He told me he was too intrigued that there were no words to convey his feelings. He asked me out and I said yes. Our first date was a success, and it seemed like the perfect date for us both. It turned out we had a lot in common. After the date he tried to invite himself in. However, my ex was still living with me. I told him and it didn’t seem to bother him much, except for the next few times he came to pick me up he would sit in the car out front and kiss me for a long time, which felt like an attempt to make my ex jealous. He's also the jealous type, because he was intimidated by of my new male roommate and one of my guy friends.
One night we went to see our favorite band, and he introduced me as his “girl” to some friends. Then, just a few weeks later, he would go on and on about how extremely into me he was and how we had a spiritual connection that he’s never had with any woman before. He told me he wanted to be my boyfriend. Things were moving fast. I swear to god one night he was trying to tell me he loved me.
The first month we had lots of sex. Unfortunately, I had contracted HSV-1 from him. We both had breakouts, but mine were more extreme.
Ever since that our sex life took a dive. After that, he told me he was unsure if he liked me, which was coincidentally after I told him something seemed wrong “down there”. He dropped me off and wouldn't touch me. Two days later he called me back, saying he had to have me.
At that point, he told me he was afraid to be in a committed relationship…but he was so enamored by me he couldn’t resist and felt childish for being so scared.
Now, I find out he is still using okcupid and was online when I went to look at his page. We went from seeing each other every other day to once a week.
He told me again he was scared and felt he wasn't attracted to me on some level, but would be contradictory and tell me how attracted he was to me not long afterward. It doesn't make sense that I'm gorgeous and wonderful one day, but then undesirable the next.
One night I walked past his house and saw he was sitting out front with a girl. It was like 12 am. I came up to say hi. Not long afterward she left. I asked him if I had been interrupting anything. He said no and that she was "just a friend" (who he dated prior to me).
I asked him about how he felt about “us”. He said he wanted to be in a relationship with me, and that I was special to him, but he also wanted to be single.
He said the timing was wrong…he wants someone who has already got a Bachelors, and I'm still working on mine. He's 35 and I'm 28. I asked him if we were friends with benefits and he said "hell no" I was more than that.
This was one week ago. Now he invites me to spend the night, but won't have sex. I do know he has ED. But nothing is making sense. I got mad about it two nights ago and just left after he turned me down and fell asleep.
What is going on? Why does he swing back and forth? What is going .
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Any person who wants to be in a relationship and be single as well obviously isn't relationship material.
That means he wants the pros of being both but neither one of their cons.
So, he sounds unstable and its probably not in your best interest to keep spending time with someone who isn't looking to be in a relationship.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE