What is holding me back now is that I love her a lot and I wooed her for a very long time in fact. I also know that because of all I have done and how much I have done for her, it will really crush her if I propose a break from our relationship, especially when she is going through a tough period in her life now. I will also see her in church every week and that may make things tough if there was a break.
I really care for her and do not want to hurt her but at the same time I feel like something is amiss or rather not right in the relationship, what should I do?
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Well, I'm thinking that the way she is expressing herself may be because of the tough period in her life. She may be putting walls up for fear of getting hurt and having more to add to this tough period. Was she like this before? If she was then I suggest you have a good heart to heart because relationships often fail when the two start making assumptions since they haven't heard their spouse's side of the story.
She may just not be an outwardly lovey-dovey person. I know that I can come off as uncaring sometimes with the way I may say something or react to something, but I have walls up and it takes me a long while to put myself in vulnerable positions. If she is anything like me, this tough time might have set her back or put more fear into her. I doesn't mean that she doesn't love you.
So, TALK TO HER. Ask her what is going on. Assure her that you will be there for her, and that you wouldn't hurt her intentionally. Don't take a break. Its fine to give her a bit of space, but don't give her too much or you risk her putting even more walls up.
Hope this helped a little.