I've seen on here so many questions on why men should initiate/why women don't, and the "best" answer is usually biology/testosterone and that's an acceptable answer.
But, when someone asks why men are prone to cheating , and you give them a correct answer, its seen as a cop out
Not saying cheating is right by any means.
Why is biology an acceptable reason as to why females shouldn't pursue but it isn't for why men cheat?
What Girls Said 10
Because cheating on a partner or choosing to not approach someone is not biology, they are choices.
If cheating was biology, we would see much more cheating than there is now.
Both of those reasons are just cop outs for people who refuse to take responsibility for their life choices.
If you want a relationship to work out, then don't cheat. If you are sick of getting approached by the wrong guys, then start approaching the right ones.3
It's a cop out for either excuse. We're not primitive little monkeys anymore and we can think past our biological instincts. It sounds like both of those questions would have come from women so the difference is women tend to be biased when they're picking those answers.4
I don't think either of them are acceptable. They're excuses, not reasons or facts. Also, I've never really heard any woman blame biology for their lack of interest in pursuing men? But then again, I don't pay much attention to these things because I think they're dumb.0
biology is a reason why women cheat, sometimes they fancy an alpha male, sometimes they fancy the weak man to look after the child they had with the alpha male. I watched a documentary on it by Dr Winston. It's all to do with their period cycle.0
Biology is a ridiculous excuse for either of those questions.0
B/c it's instinctive0
Because its their opinion0
it is not0
What Guys Said 9
I think we use biology as an excuse incorrectly all the time. Biology is the study of life. It's the study of what IS or WAS happening not necessarily what SHOULD happen. Women may be more inclined to wait and not pursue because of their biological make up but it doesn't mean they should. Men may be more biologically inclined to cheat (and women are too actually) but that doesn't mean they should. What is natural isn't always best. But because there is less psychological pain involved with the whole "pursue or be pursued" thing as opposed to the "cheating is natural" thing people are more lenient and don't bother with opposing it as much. Sounds like you already knew this though. So I guess my answer is because cheating causes more psychological pain (or we believe that it will) it makes us more anxious when we think about it and makes us more inclined to oppose any notion that could suggest cheating is permissible even though it may not be suggesting that at all. So in short, biology. That's just my opinion though. I hope I explained myself well.0
Expectations from women culturally. Pay no heed to them. I dont, theyll tell you a million ways to do something than cant. I do my own thing. If I ask for an opinion, ill listen, but the ones who are constant with how,what, a man "is" and "is supposed" to be based on their fantasy, is pure bullsh*t.0
Men aren't more prone to cheating, they just get caught more because they aren't as good socially (therefore can't lie nearly as well). I remember reading something like 15% of dads who think they are the biological father of a child are actually not, some scary sh*t right there haha.
To actually answer you question its because most people are complete hypocrites, myself included.1
Because people pick and choose what parts of biology they approve of and disregard the ones that stop us from being civilized.
The funny part is depending on conversations their views on biology and society will flip flop.
Cognitive Dissonance hurts so people do what they can to keep their world view in check.1
Anything that works in your favor is awesome.
Anything that works against your favor sucks ass.
Simple logic. Refuse the sh*t. Accept the gold.4
We as an intelligent species have a higher cognitive functioning in our brain that overrules our basic instinct. When men cheat, part of it is because they are horny (instinct), but the majority of the decision comes from a cognitive decision to pursue another women because of their own personal reasoning to do so. If women say that they don't approach or pursue as you put it because of biology (which I've never heard before), part of it might come from a woman's desire to be lead, be dominated, or be submissive (instinct), but the majority of it comes from a cognitive ideal they developed while growing up learning that it is like a law of nature that a man should make the moves/do the work. These aren't instincts, these are LEARNED behaviors based on the way their society worked and taught them while they grew up.
That should answer your question, both are wrongful answers using base instincts as excuses for what is the real reason.1
It's exactly why I think it's fine if a man cheats on his woman.0
Because women like it both ways.0
hmmmmm very good point0
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