So my ex and I broke up a year ago. Since then she has been going back and forth on if she wants an us. We talk several times a day, text frequently, hang out 3-4 times per week. Every so often she gets mad at me because essentially I'm just loving and nice towards her. When I retreat she gets nervous and clings to me. I have told her I will not pressure her to be with me that its something she has to want. I don't bring up getting back together.
I simply just listen to her, help her with life, and am supportive of her. She knows I love her and she tells me quite often that she loves me.
A few days ago we met up and she kissed me on the lips. We made out but stopped. If she doesn't get a hold of me for a few hours she gets freaked out. She calls me every time before and after she goes out with her friends. Now, we used to hook up a lot but I stopped it roughly a month and a half ago as I told her I want a relationship not just sex. I would like to know if there is a shot or should I focus on new girls in my life. THough I am not a player I feel playing the fields is the best option and seeing who sticks. THanks in advance
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She was using you...or more accurately, you were using each other, hooking up that is.
She wants all the benefits of the relationship without all the responsibility. That's why she clings but won't make the decision. If she chooses, then she has to be responsible for the choice. And that means if it doesn't work out, then she is the one who chose it and she has no one to blame but herself.
I think you'd be happier if you moved on and saw what other fish were in the ocean.0