After 3 years of relationship things are over thanks to the pressure his parents put every day on him. He broke up with me 3 months ago cause I didn't go to a family cruise he was planning. I unfortunately didn't have the money. Apparently his mom didn't like that. Since she has never liked me, she went and kept poison his son and at the end he just decided to break up with me. A month ago after he was regretting what happened , he asked me to go back with him and try again. Since then his mom has been giving him a hard time cause she couldn't believe he was back with me. Yesterday he had a huge fight with her and try to explain her but she didn't listen and kept insulting him. Today he was very stressed and he was just saying he loves me a lot and wants to see me happy and he doesn't want me to keep passing through that situation. So after I saw he was so upset and frustrated, I decided to let him go so that he didn't have to pass through more issues. I'm so sad I had to do that. I was always good to his parents but I wasn't good enough for them. He hasn't contacted me at all. I just don't know what to do. I love him so much and we wanted to have a future together. Unfortunately he just can't :(
Please I would like to hear some advices in this hard moment. I just feel really down
I'm so sad . I don't know what to do :(
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Wow, I'm sorry to hear that. After all that time I can't imagine what it must feel like to endure all the harsh words and poison his mom has been oozing. You know, I honestly think you did a good thing by letting him go. You're respecting yourself.
Parents always wish the best for their children, but those expectations can often get way out of hand. Like no matter what happens, no girl will be enough for mommy's little boy, you know what I mean? So please don't think you were "not good enough" or something like that. In his mom's eyes, a millionaire supermodel with a doctor's degree working at NASA would have probably been not enough.
The real problem here is that HE failed to step up for you. HE must let his own mother know he's a grown man and he's already chosen the perfect girl for him. Who knows what his mom might say, but she has to understand he's able to make his own decisions. And even if she complains, he shouldn't let that get in the way for you two. He was very immature to let his mom's words get in the way, and if he doesn't grow up this may keep happening forever. If today things have been so painful, just imagine your wedding day, family reunions, trips, her birthdays!
So once again, you go girl. I'd take these days lightly, letting sh*t get out of your system and hanging out with your friends or enjoying by yourself while everything cools down. There's a chance he might finally understand how much damage you've taken for him. He might man up and come back for you, but don't count on it just yet. If he doesn't do anything, you'll know he wasn't worthy after all. When in doubt, just remember what made you come to this, and think about all the bullets you'll be dodging!
Oh, one last thing. If he does come back, don't be too easy on him. Have a good talk so you know exactly what he's thinking and how he's gonna handle Momzilla. It'd really suck to go through all that again, so please make sure you're both ready if the time comes.
Best of luck! (: