Right now I am reconsidering a relationship with my fiance. Our relationship has been about two years, not that long but I see a lot of inconsistency.
Such things include his proclamation he would finish his certificate and has still yet to do it. He also just recently quit a job and now going back to his old job where he'll be working with my ex boyfriend as his superior...
I posted a few places for him to apply to but I feel less attracted to him because he's willing to go back to a sh*tty job. I feel less attracted because he's not following through with what he said and if I'm married to him, I'm not sure how our children will be. I need someone who is stable in terms of finances. Plus he has student loans...I Don't know right now really what I should do because... I don't have loans, I have a stable job and almost done my training etc. As idealistic as I want to be in terms of compassion, does anyone else have any other advice?
It would be a terrible time to break up with him too seeing how he is embarrassing me going backwards in a way. please need help, not criticism. I am needing mature advice only.
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I definitely wouldn't recommend marriage if he doesn't follow through with things and doesn't try to make things better for himself and the both of you. You need to talk to him about this because it's obvious you both aren't ready for this. You aren't sure about him being able to support you and you don't feel the connection, or at least the same as before. He's flaky and doesn't seem to care much not to mention not too stable with finances and apparently maturity isn't there.
If you do talk and he thinks everything is fine (when clearly it's not), maybe you two need to take a break. Maybe indefinitely. Maybe not until he proves that he's capable to keeping a good job, following through with things, paying off his loans, etc.
If he's really mature and cares for you like the way he should, he'll make an effort to do the right things right away. Not in the near future.0