I have finally backed away from the girl I like (and who I told I had feelings for a while ago) after months of being given mixed signals and having games played with me and within 2 days she has contacted me to ask if I am OK as she senses something is up. I told her I was OK so she asked if I wanted to meet up and have a chat as she felt I was avoiding her. I told her no and that I was OK so she left it with "fine well if you ever want to chat or anything let me know and I won't contact you now as you are clearly looking for some space".
The question I have is are girls more likely to change their minds when guys back off from them? I have been a doormat for months now and had to see her date others guys but I had such mixed signals as some days she wanted us to go for drinks/food and spend hours together and other days I was ignored completely. Part of me wants this space in a hope she misses me but I will be kind of disappointed if she doesn't as it will confirm to me that I have just been an ego boost for the past few months. I know it's the best thing to do because even if she doesn't contact me again (she is stubborn) then I guess every day that passes is another day closer to getting over her anyway which is hard enough as we work near each other so I have to see her every day.
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Depends. If it does work, it might make her realize that she really likes you. But don't get your hopes up. Sounds like she has been flaky from the start, which is a good indicator that only one action (you backing off) won't change her mind. Most of the time, these kind of scenarios are impossible to somehow fix. Seems like she's keeping you on the back burner until someone "better" catches her interest. She likes the attention, but dislikes the commitment. That's why she gets jealous (she doesn't like the idea of someone taking the attention away from her) but still doesn't do much about it. It's easy for your colleagues to say that she likes you 100%, but clearly, when it boils down to it, only she knows what she feels. And right now, judging by the way she behaves and treats you, I don't think she sees you as a potential boyfriend.0
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