Long story short, I was with this girl for over 4 years and we broke up just over 2 months ago. Did the whole no contact and what not, she drunk dialled me once and was being nice after the break up; I'm being as mature as I can here. I was pretty much the good boyfriend any girl could've asked for, has a steady job, moved to another city for her because of study reason, cooks for her, pay her dinner/movies or any other expenses when we go out on dates! be there for her when she's emotionally distraught. I sometimes lie and do the wrong things but we all make mistakes yeah since we're only human. Before the downfall of the relationship she wrote me a letter downsizing me and outlined all my mistakes and of all the things she's not happy with and it was pretty much 'i'm not happy about...blah blah; I did the mature thing and apologize and promised her that it won't happen again (mistake I know) I should've told her about her shortcomings that I've been keeping inside too but of course I didn't want to instigate.
She had to move to another state for temporary work and our last night together was kinda rocky and she left in a confusing state. After she's gone I called her one night and told her about things that was honest and she broke it off right there and then! I begged a little and ask for an explanation but there were no closures! I was left confused, utterly heart broken and absolutely crushed (pathetically cried for like 3 weeks straight and lost weight) anyway, I've apologized to her 2 days ago and I got message back and she said she "appreciate the apologies" but she didn't say sorry that she broke my heart (the bitch), yesterday I called my sister and she's still friends with my ex on Facebook and she told me she's now in a relationship with another guy she works with! I broke down a little and that feelings turned into raging anger and then I called one my friend and he told me that he also looked at my 'ex's' new toy that he's been with her 2 weeks after she an I broke up! I got fuelled up with anger again but I did not confront my ex about it! my friends said it's best to ignore her and my family also said the same because she hasn't given herself enough time to completely over me and on the rebound; she will go down in a bigger flame sooner or later my question I guess, is this the case is she completely over me. My ex's new toy boy, from what I heard, he's younger, has deep red strawberry hair, worked at some random toy shop and doesn't have a Uni degree (sounds like an average douche to me) and what also my friend described...I'm cutting of contact now forever and will not give her anymore of my time and respect because this is like the biggest insults anyone has ever done to me!
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My ex boyfriend of two years did the same thing. I'm about 95% sure he was cheating. The only thing you can do is stop contacting her at all, stop looking at her on Facebook, stop asking about her. It's f***ing painful as hell to be betrayed and treated unfairly. My ex did the same thing - ran me down and I held my tongue because I have more compassion and fairness.
The truth ... some people are just a**holes. Some have some tremendous positive qualities, but they are lacking in other character traits that make someone a good partner. Sometime we want to try to justify the amount of investment we put into them and expect some kind of repentance on their behalf, but I don't think the world works this way. Keep your own integrity in mind. You will get through this, but holding onto anger or blaming yourself will not help you move forward. Sorry this happened to you.0
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