Guys so you think it's over?
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Sorry about all of this turmoil,but I will say this.
We cannot put "GUYS" into this.We cannot categorize and generalize guys by saying it is something that THEY just DO.We can only talk abouut your boyfriend here,not the entire sex.There are certainly.guys I out there who DON'T act like your boyfriend.Now...
#1.Your friends and others having an opinion of the relationship?...IRRELEVENT!
Your friends and HIS friends are NOT in the relationship.They don't see or know entirely what happens behind closed doors.So their opinion is just that...an OPINION.
#2.THINK about how YOU FEEL HAVING THIS RELATIONSHIP.
I'm going to be honest.I only know of what you have written here about the relationship,so everything I am saying is me speculating really.But please consider the real reason you want this person back...I said,THE REAL REASON.What else exactly was he offering you that you liked him SO MUCH? Go back and think about how you felt in the relationship this entire time.Analyze everything VERY carefully...thoughts,emotions towards him,and why do you really wish to reconcile this broken relationship?
#3.LOW SELF ESTEEM AND SELF SABOTAGE GETS YOU EVERYTIME...
I'm referring to your boyfriend here. Girly,I think your boy has low self esteem.He has either been burned in the past,or fears getting burned in the future.That's the reason why he misinterprets your comments/behavior...LOW SELF ESTEEM.People with this frame of mind hind it for as long as they can (some can't),but it comes out every time.Their own insecurities consumes relationships and causes it to fall apart in the end.From reading what you have written,your relationship could have used some good old fashioned improvement in communication,but that's NOT entirely the problem here.Your boyfriend single handedly PROJECTED all of his insecurities on you,making it seem like you said or did something you really didn't...and then BLAMED YOU for it!
You broke things off because you were obviously tired of the arguments and blame...and him 'getting down on himself".You have seen for yourself how exhausting it can be trying to have a productive relationship with someone who is actively trying to ruin it. As I mentioned before...think about why you want this relationship.Don't speak out of lonliness or emotionalism.But logically sit and think,can you deal with him being broken like this?Would he be willing to get some therapy?Its takes TWO people to make a relationship work.If he isn't willing to put in the work,you will be right back at square one.
I cannot say whether you guys will reconnect.Guys like him have already formulated in their own mind what you will say and do...or what they think you hafe done.I have experienced a similiar situation and...well...its NOT up to you to change him.If he doesn't recognize a great gal in front of him,girl...you need to move on.Sorry,the probability of him chasing you is slim...although time will tell.For right now,things
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