Before you criticize, I know I shouldn't have gone through his phone but I knew he was hiding something, I was sure it was either drugs or cheating. I also know I can't get an honest answer from him because he knows pot is a deal breaker for me.
He's over 30, but he acts so irresponsibly. He just got his job and we have been living together. He owes me $500 which apparently he can't pay back. He's been sleeping in extremely late, hasn't been able to follow conversations, can't seem to concentrate, etc. from my job I know all the signs but I just wanted hard proof.
I found out he has been buying pot from his friend and spending quite a bit of money. He could have at least paid me back especially because I needed the money to pay bills and he knew I was barely scraping by.
He's been lying about where he is going and who he is with. I don't know how to confront him. I don't want to marry someone who does and spends money on drugs.
The biggest thing is - he's also a heavy drinker and I would go as far to say he is an alcoholic. He's even admitted he has a problem once. But then he doesn't do anything about it. I honestly have no idea what to do.any advice?
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Your boyfriend sounds like a loser. He is an adult and can't get his life together. I'm in high school and I see a lot of people who are more mature than he is in my day to day life.
Just break up with him:
-He isn't a man, just an immature boy
-You mentioned to him that smoking pot is a deal breaker for you. You found out he smokes pot. Need I say more?
-He is lying to you and isn't able to handle life, that is why he drinks and smokes.
Find someone better.1