my boyfriend and I have been together for just over 3 months now. it seems like he cares a lot about me, but there are some things that make me hesitate about continuing on in our relationship.
1. he hasn't said "i love you" yet, and it doesn't seem like he will for a while
2. he hasn't mentioned much about his family or meeting them
3. he is too busy to go to big events that are coming up in my life.
when I say big events, I mean there have been 4 opportunities for him to go to an event with me, the most important of which is a black tie gala. he said he couldn't make any of them, but if I wanted to bring another guy to the gala (who isn't an ex bf) then that was completely fine with him. is it just me or does that seem weird?
lately he's been distant. he runs a decent sized company and I understand that work is a priority but at the same time he used to put me first but for the past two weeks we've barely seen each other and our daily texts/nightly calls have turned into maybe a couple of shallow texts a day and that's it.
i feel like he's going to break up with me, and I'm not happy in the relationship. I know he gets frustrated if I say I'm not happy because he probably feels like he's doing everything he can. I want to break up with him but I'm scared to because I'm worried that I won't find another guy.
he truly is a good guy, we share a lot of common beliefs (with the exception of religion) and when we are together he treats me well. the thing is he barely takes me on dates and when I bring that up he gets upset.
i know this sounds silly but I'm 24 and I've never broken up with a guy before...i always wait it out thinking maybe the guy is "the one" or it's just a rough patch and they end up breaking up with me. right now I can't handle being broken up with by him.
the one ex I still talk to said it sounds like our relationship is "going nowhere" but I'm not sure if he's biased because the other night he said how much he misses me etc and then blamed it on being drunk.
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1. It's been three months, most guys would think that's still way too soon to say 'I love you'.
2. Maybe he isn't big into family, or maybe he doesn't see you meeting them as a big deal, I introduce a girl to my parents often on the first day, I don't see it as a landmark in a relationship.
3. It'd be different if he was ditching it for his friends or something, work is very time consuming.
I'd not really take just an exs opinion of it, believe me if a girl I dated asked about her current boyfriend I'd probably be a bit devious and talk him down... Out of jealousy or defensiveness, for the record I don't believe any of my exs would think I still have any feelings left towards them, but I do still feel jealousy and some attachment.1
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